Before i met my beloved husband, i was engaged to someone in Europe who had family in the US and they arranged the rishta. I met the guy and thought he was perfect and we got engaged. I started visa process for him to come to the US so we could get married here. He was doing his graduate studies while i started working. In the begining everything was fine and dandy and i was just on cloud 9 with happiness. Slowly i started noticing changes in his phone behaviour. Meanwhile i was about to go to Pakistan for our wedding shopping. Before i left, i asked him to make sure everything was ok and he said it was.
Our visa process took ayear go through. During this time, his behaviour totally changed and i kept htinking it was because of me or something. I kept asking him but never got any answers really. His visa came through and the wedding date was set. A week before the wedding, i got a call from his friend saying that the guy is not ready to get married and he wont be coming to the US. I could not believe my ears. I was totally devastated and so was my family. The day folks recieved their wedding invites, we had to call and tell them everything was cancelled. During this time, the guy did not take any of our phone calls or his familys’ to give us some answers. I didnt know how to pick myself up and go on with life. Luckily i had great support from family and colleagues and i just immersed myself in work, working 70 hours a week sometimes.
His friend told me that he was interested in some other girl at school and felt pressured by the wedding etc. And his friend decides to propose me. I was like, do i look that dumb to you?
Anyhow, my husband’s rishta came right after this. I wasnt ready to be comitted again at such tender time but i thought to atleast give him a chance. I did and after i got to know my husband i was so glad my ex decided to walk out on me. That guy could not even be anywhere near how good a man my husband is, ALhamdulillah.
