His mom is definetley a huge factor, but the son's is also a huge part- after all he's there with his mom and dad, and I heard he interview the girls like their applying to med school or something.
Like he'll ask, So what is a wife's responsibility? How much Quran do you know? What scholars do you listen to ? WHy?
Which would be fine if he hadn't already made up his mind that you're already rejected. And the mom at the end tell the girl's mom, that they are looking for a hafiza and an MD.
They did the same with there older son too, except he wasnt a hafiz but still religious and an MD. They went EVERYWHERE and rejected girls right and left (they would say we want one that's a doctor and knows arabic, etc)! And then they met a girl they liked and she REJECTED him because she said he didn't have a BEARD. The whole community laffed in sastisfaction! Anyways he ended up marrying this a girl that wasn't a MD or hafiza, and she didn't know arabic either. Just a normal housewife. She is pretty though.
I knew that.
Some ppl isntead of saying that I don't like your girl they make story like I'm looking this and that. I think that is the nice way to say no instead of dirctly saying that I didn't like your daughter.
Some ppl do that whatever they are looking for they don't tell ppl and when they find it they go for it.
That was ajeeb that He didn't have Beard.
It sounds like me.
Looking for Hafiza girl. Not looking for MD or some high qualification but at least B.Sc. good looking and tall.
Hafiza lar'ki milti naheen hai. Hamari community main aik bhi hafiza naheen hai. Sigh.
I don't know if I tell ppl I'm looking for tall and slim girl then why they send picture of short and lots of weight.
Some even photoshped the picture to make her like heroin. I don't know why ppl who are religious and doing all this dhoka.
Most ppl says say yes without picture. Marry without looking at picture. We are too religious and won't give you picture.
To one person I said we are not luchchay lafangay and won't sell your daughters picture to a gunda or badmaash or over the internet.
How could we marry a girl even not looking at her picture.
It is allowed in Islam to see the girl. She has to see the boy too.
If living in Pakistan how would I know without picture. I clearly say no to those who says we can't give you picture. If you don't believe for picture how would you believe to give your daughter.