Underwear as Gift

Girly_Man · October 30, 2011, 7:40pm

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you Know my SO gifted me a chaddi with dabkay ka kaam all over it

Mad_Hatter · October 30, 2011, 7:56pm

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^does it feel all scratchy when you wear it?

Girly_Man · October 30, 2011, 7:59pm

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huh honey how do you feel walking in stilettos? :halo:

redvelvet · October 30, 2011, 8:02pm

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Did it also have them small mirrors sewn on it? It just give it a lil something extra.

wishkamar · October 30, 2011, 9:55pm

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First of all, I’m sorry M_Was_Here if my post hurt you. I PROMISE I wasn’t trying to be disrespectful or contemptuous to your exchange of gifts or anything else, for that matter. It is just that when I read your post, it reminded of something that happened with me, too, and I was re-collecting and sharing what I felt when it happened.

@redvelvet, A couple of “naseehatein” - which you are ever so ready to give out to others - your way: 1) Try not to jump down on to conclusions just by reading a like or two and 2) Please don’t try to aaag lagana when it’s hardly needed or called for.

I don’t care if exchange of chaddis or bras or whatever happens between whosoever. If you re-read my previous post, you can see it yourself that I wasn’t being nasty to M-Was_Here either. All I said was that such thing happened to me once as well and it freaked me out at that point of time as I didn’t know an exchange of lingerie could happen between an unmarried couple. It doesn’t mean my views have changed now when I have grown older. I still find such thing extremely inappropriate and wouldn’t do it MYSELF with a person I’m not married to. Having said this, I live my life on Live and Let Live term and don’t go dissing people around who happen to be doing something I feel inappropriate or don’t approve of.

Nor am I the only one who seemed surprised on MWH’s post, am I? So I don’t think I’d be highly wrongful to assume this hasn’t become a norm between Pakistani unmarried couples yet, am I? Or, at least, people do it but just don’t actually cough up that they do so, right?

wishkamar · October 30, 2011, 10:01pm

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Urmm...to each their own, I s'ppose. It's just that I wouldn't be comfortable exchanging such gifts with anybody before shadi, no matter how close I am to that person, because, IMO, it just gets very suggestive in a very wrong way. But it's just my very own idea and, before @redvelvet jumps on me again, I'm definitely not saying that anybody who does so is right or wrong :) That's all!

M_was_here · October 30, 2011, 10:01pm

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He is my fiance and we are on very non-formal terms. We are best friends before anything else. And also, I guess we’re kinda besharam. Normally, this would offend any girl, I assume. It’s also very gross if you think about a random guy having your undies (to some it may be gross regardless) BUT like I said, we’re best friends, engaged and about to be married and knowing how he is (the most amazing, trustworthy, decent, dedicated person I’ve ever known. Also, we both had never dated anyone or had any previous relationships, and something about that makes our relationship very exclusive and fun. We both dont have any prior history or expectations and obviously because we were our firsts, the bar has been set very high ) so hence, giving him a pair was not an issue.

I can understand why this way weird some folks out, but keeping our dynamic and relationship in mind and seeing how crazy we are about one another, it seems kinda random and trivial.

LOL!

This! It’s about who asks for it. I would never give it if my fiance and I were in our early dating phase or I didn’t trust him or felt like he was going to “judge” me or use it against me in the future. It all depends on the gut feeling you get from the guy and how he is.

And @wishkamar, no hard feelings. I know you were just curious.

M_was_here · October 30, 2011, 10:03pm

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And thank you for using "MWH", I think that is what I should be referred to b/c I feel bad when people have to type out "M_Was_Here", lol.

redvelvet · October 30, 2011, 10:18pm

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@wishkamar…I don’t even know what issues are going on between you and other members in this thread as I haven’t read all the posts. I had no intention of “aag lagaaing” anyone. You could have PM’ed me and sought a clarification. Oohps there I go again with the naseehatain But I’ve sent you a PM to clarify the situation (the incorrect assumptions that you have regarding my post).

chaibiskut · October 31, 2011, 5:24am

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Whether a couple gifts each other knickers and bras depends on their composite personality (I really want to say IQ) and how sexual their relationship is. For some, this level of intimacy is devoid of meaning outside the sanctity of marriage. Giving someone underwear is unlike giving someone jewelery or a necktie. The intention is sexual, the aim is arousal.

I personally don't know anyone who does. Then again my social circle might be atypical. My idea of romance is gifting a book, preferably with depressing subject matter.

M_was_here · October 31, 2011, 8:13am

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Orrrr the intent was a light-hearted joke? I guess it depends on the dynamic of the relationship. :p

myasinkhan · October 31, 2011, 9:00am

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if there is frankness between u guys…its ok…but if its for the first time you are giving something…then never:snooty:

Xtron · November 2, 2011, 7:56pm

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Alrightay i joked yesterday with one of my gori friend. I asked her if she would give underwear as a gift to her bf. She said.."o wow..good idea!". I made someone's day...

hareem01 · November 2, 2011, 8:16pm

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you have gori friends? astaghfirullah.

Mona_Nisa · November 2, 2011, 10:01pm

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Very well put!