What is so hard to understand? Is this rocket science or something? Just like men dont come with a manual...we dont either. If we can understand your need for a newspaper in the bathroom, sports (ew), male bonding, etc...why cant you understand PMS, relationships, manners, deodorants and romance?!?!
I STILL dont understand needing to read in the bathroom..or spending an hour in there..even without a newspaper or magazine! (What on earth do you men do in there...even self pleasure doesnt last that long!!)
I still dont understand needing to leave the wet towel on the bed after a shower.
I still dont understand why taking care of children is only supposed to be the womans job?
I still dont understand why making loud noises via your mouth or back end is hilarious?
I still dont understand why men need to watch every single news channel for hours on end? ITS SOOO BORING!
I still dont understand why men think that they require any accountability for their actions?
Hand on heart or Quran either way never flirt with any of my female friends. And all the girls on my private e-mail are real life friends. Some are married to friends, some are dating them, others are my friends. Never flirted with any one of them never will. That is just asking for soap opera drama.
As for dropping anybody at home, innocent again. I have had dinners with female friends one on one. I always pay. Standard for me. All innocent. Which usually gets me weird glances and looks from other people. But I am never going ask a lady to pay for something. Grabbing a coffee to discuss whats happening in life is normal as well. I know most of their personal lives and stuff. I know their parents half the time.
I am really old fashioned, I pay, open doors and stuff. But then again I know that you can be friends with women and not want to jump into bed with them. Pakistani women on the other hand have very different ideas :D
P2 With all that extra plumbing and those leaks women should definitely come with manuals and preferably an off switch! And I don't trust anything that bleeds for 7 days and does not die. God Bless Southpark.
Reading in the bathroom. It kills time. It is efficient. What else are you gonna do? The process is natural. As for lenght, if it needs to be done it can not hurried. Do it once do it right.
Wet towel. Well its better than the floor. The chair will not do and frankly we know you will pick it up. I get grief from my mother about this all the time whenever I am home.
Children. Because you have the motherly instincts we don't. We will tell the kid to walk it off. You will kiss it and make it better. And frankly kids are more attached to their mothers.
Farts. It is as long as you are 18. After that its only funny in movies.
News. Information is important. Analysis even more so. Every news channel has a different angle and a different set of views. A wide range of information with varying view points provide a solid basis for information and thus we can sound smart infront of other people.
Accountability. I believe you mean no accountability. You are the wife. Not the mother. Our mother can grab our ear and beat us senseless. She has the authority to do so. We don't give it - it is hers by the natural order of things.
You do not have that right. Questioning where we were or what we were doing leads to the following. We feel you think you have dominion over us. Not true. We have dominion over you. Secondly you are not our mother. That is usually why we don't sleep in the same bed as you after that accountability session. You freak us out.
We are no that hard to understand, its just you men take it all out of proportion and make it look worser then it actually is.
Believe it or not, just like you men we women also have good days, bad days, etc and maybe at the time when you rang her to come out she was probably have one of those days. Just chill out and look at how good women are and how good it is to have us and how it woudld be impossible to liev without and how you would turn into ill-mannered freaks if it wasnt for our kind and sensible nature lol!!!!!
Hand on heart or Quran either way never flirt with any of my female friends. And all the girls on my private e-mail are real life friends. Some are married to friends, some are dating them, others are my friends. Never flirted with any one of them never will. That is just asking for soap opera drama.
Glad to hear that. I also talk to men and I dont tell my hubby but like you, they are old friends who all know I am married with kids and are usually in the same boat (i.e. married with kids). Both men and women are equally jealous when it comes to the opposite sex. And my reason for talking to men..yes..they do fulfill a part that hubby doesnt..conversation. I married the silent type who only wants to talk about Pakistan or cricket. I love cricket but currently cricket is not talkworthy and I really dont know enough about Pakistan. My male friends usually want a womens perspective on their situations.
As for dropping anybody at home, innocent again. I have had dinners with female friends one on one. I always pay. Standard for me. All innocent. Which usually gets me weird glances and looks from other people. But I am never going ask a lady to pay for something. Grabbing a coffee to discuss whats happening in life is normal as well. I know most of their personal lives and stuff. I know their parents half the time. Like the idea that you pay..now where did you say you live again?;)
P2 With all that extra plumbing and those leaks women should definitely come with manuals and preferably an off switch! And I don't trust anything that bleeds for 7 days and does not die. God Bless Southpark. Thats why women are called the 8th wonder of the world. You are always wondering..WTH??
Reading in the bathroom. It kills time. It is efficient. What else are you gonna do? The process is natural. As for lenght, if it needs to be done it can not hurried. Do it once do it right. One hour?? Reading I can understand..but the other stuff..whatcha taking..viagra?
Wet towel. Well its better than the floor. The chair will not do and frankly we know you will pick it up. I get grief from my mother about this all the time whenever I am home.
Children. Because you have the motherly instincts we don't. We will tell the kid to walk it off. You will kiss it and make it better. And frankly kids are more attached to their mothers. I think the male species deleted the term fatherly instincts from the dictionary so they wouldnt have to be called up on it! Kids are only attached to the parent that gives them the most attention. My brothers kids are more attached to him because even though he goes to work etc..he spends as much time as he can with them when he is home.
Farts. It is as long as you are 18. After that its only funny in movies. Thank God for that! But it still doesnt explain why men will be laying in front of the TV and then suddenly blow a loud one and just continue watching TV like nothing happened. Something did happen..and it was gross..do ya really have to do that in front of me???
News. Information is important. Analysis even more so. Every news channel has a different angle and a different set of views. A wide range of information with varying view points provide a solid basis for information and thus we can sound smart infront of other people. I have seen that in action..repeating the same news story over and over again to every friend that will listen. You may sound smart to your friends..but your woman will just think you dont have the brains to think for yourself!
Accountability. I believe you mean no accountability. You are the wife. Not the mother. Our mother can grab our ear and beat us senseless. She has the authority to do so. We don't give it - it is hers by the natural order of things.
You do not have that right. Questioning where we were or what we were doing leads to the following. We feel you think you have dominion over us. Not true. We have dominion over you. Secondly you are not our mother. That is usually why we don't sleep in the same bed as you after that accountability session. You freak us out.
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I meant where a hubby thinks he can go and do anything he wants to without discussing with his wife. You dont have to ask permission or tell us every time you want to have a pee, but if your action effects us, we have a right to have an opinion on it. And you having dominion on us..LOL..thats the best way to lose a woman..try to be dominant..didnt your million news channels tell you about the article on a study that says that men who listen to their wives had the happy and content marriages?
But I am utterly charming. You said so yourself over that tiramisu. One hour is great. Sorry I can't pick you up, I am walking a co-worker home. I bet you won't mind buying the ticket for me? Thanks honey.
I'm slightly more charming..and isn't that's why u opened a thread about me? The tiramisu was actually nothing to write home about.. I just swallowed it and flushed it with Perrier so u're feelings don't get hurt.
If u can walk a co-worker home, I'm sure u can walk to the secret destination as well.. I'll be busy straightning my hair so be sure and arrive well in advance to purchase the tickets.. and u already know i'm not fond of the front seats.
Okay why is that a bad move? Why can't I walk a friend home and chat with her? Mind you I walked her home, said good bye at her apartment door and then head over to my place. All innocent.
Thanks Jaanwar. Frankly I need all the help I can get.
I think you should enter the life of a monk. All problems solved. Thank me nicely now.
I think people try to over analyze men women thing.
Its good for discussion and jokes though to cry about not understanding opposite sex.
Just as all men are not equal or same, women are not either.
On the other hand both men and women share similar qualities. Being jealous, possesive or territorial is not just man or woman thingy. Its common to both.
In the question asked, getting so called cold shoulder could be due to variety of reasons, not just because you did not ask her 'permission' to go alone or did not go with other people etc.
Why not ask the woman herself if this was really a cold shoulder or she had something else to do during that week etc.???
Try to have a sincere, open relation, you will never have this problem.
If you try to understand women who you do not have relationship and are not succesful, then whats the big deal?
Even men don't understand men or women don't understand other women in many ways and again no big deal in that.
Bottom line:
*Only time the situation arise where one person thinks he/she cannot understand other is when the relationship is not really open and candid. If both are open in relationship then there should not be a situation of not understanding each other.
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Hmmm...that is a shame wild. Conversations are a key part to any relationship. As for the free meal by all means come to Darfur. It should prove one hell of a free lunch :D
Well its nature. I am not talking about the art of self-pleasure. Rather the natural course or removing unwanted nutrients. That takes time and must be done in a peaceful and relaxed state.
Well me and my sister were very attached to my dad when we were younger as he was out to work like all dads. But mom's still hold a special place.
I am not sure who does that anymore. You only see that in movies really.
You already are with him. What does he care what you think of him. You are together you know exactly what type of man he is, if you didn't like what you had you would have divorced him by now.
Some decision do not need to be discussed. Some do. It depends on the nature of the decision to be taken. If it concerns say my sister, my wife would know after I have done whatever I deemed necessary. One thing I don't think Pakistani women realise is that sure we are married to you, but their are other women in our lives who we are responsible for. Our mothers, sisters, grandmothers and that mistress we all dearly love.
Now that is a picture worth a 1000 words Fri.
Gina compared to you I am merely an amatuer in the charming department. I can not compare with your wit or ability to dazzle the senses. I shall be there in my best blue and green tux, to match the odd skin rash you have.
Pixie....I am a sneaky suspicion I know who you are...in that regard will becoming a monk save me from the all the pain I see in my future?
Err....yeah kinda. I have been accused of being too familiar with women. One would hardly expect me to make that mistake a second time now would you? I am a good boy.
As for the monk part. If some small consolation I make a brilliant teddy bear. Elvis had it right the very first time.
Girls are innocent creatures :halo:, they just need special care n attention frm their man, if u want to u/stand women then u need to give her extra time, let her feel she values to u,
Most imp. thing , if ur relation is more the just frnds then never let her see any other female frnd around u,** u’ll be in big trouble Mr.**
i myself want every secont of my fiance to be spent with me :), but he comes back just for a month from US n hardy managed to give me time cuz of his relatives n family, i give him silent treatment, not even says a word to him unless he begs k "acha gussa ho to muj pe utar do, i wont mind but apna mood theek karo " and he plan out sumthing nice like dining out or long drives to give me his precious time.
What women want is to be always treated in the so Godly-special and polite way we men treated them like during first asking them out/going out with them...
Which is hard-work....
On the contrary, we, When our hard-work pays off, having 'pulled' them, where incentive to be extra-polite/charming no longer lies, we start getting relaxed and normal.
And this relaxation is what we they DO NOT MERCY US TO HAVE!
We are not allowed to be normal!
However on the other hand, many of us men do indeed promise 'the world and everything else' to the lady of our dreams at the start...Which cud have been the basis of them falling for us...
So supposedly they rightly eternally expect it and we r correspondingly liable to provide it?
When this extra-special treatment fades is when women start getting upset?
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i guess its the fact that you enjoyed yuorself without her and also that you would rathe rgo out thenspend time/chat to her etcmost girls are like this, as are men. if she told you she wanted you and her to go somewhere and you were too tired/etc you would want her to stay home and look after you or chat to you etc about why your day was rough and relieve your stress, not hang up jumping for joy and run out wid your mates.....tsk tsk.....
