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what’s your interpretation of the phrase “Unconditional Love”. ? Do you think such feelings of “unconditional love” exist in real/practical life? if yes give some examples.
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duh not..compromising dosn't mean unconditional love..just means understanding..love or any other feeling a human feels is all conditional!
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Agree with @CuteGurl;
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I love my family unconditionally..
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WRONG. I do feel unconditional love for someone, dunno why though. Unconditional love is just like self satisfaction in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. There are some people who love someone or people or something and don't want anything back. It is bigger than being selfish. The feeling is amazing when you realise you unconditionally love someone.
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I think in many relationships you have to "prove" yourself. You prove to your friends that you're worthy of their friendship. You prove to your boss that you deserve to stay at the job or should get that promotion. You prove yourself to your spouse, etc.
I think the relationship that comes close to displaying unconditional level is that between parents and children. *And I know that there are exceptions to this as well.
Sigh I miss the old format of GS and I hope this one is temporary.
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unconditional love is the kind of love I have for Iman Ali.
and I agree with RV, this new look for GS sucks.
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gf-bf, wife-husband type relationships cant' ever have unconditional love
if the husband or wife is physically/emotionally abusive or sleeps around can there really be unconditional love
it would seriously be a masochistic-sadistic relationship if a person allows their gf/bf or spouse to do that
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unconditional love is the kind of love I have for Iman Ali.
and I agree with RV, this new look for GS sucks.
:p that's not love unless you live with iman ali everyday and accepted all her faults and it would be unconditional love if she beats you up or gives you pain emotionally and you still loved her after that
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I think in many relationships you have to "prove" yourself. You prove to your friends that you're worthy of their friendship. You prove to your boss that you deserve to stay at the job or should get that promotion. You prove yourself to your spouse, etc.
I think the relationship that comes close to displaying unconditional level is that between parents and children. *And I know that there are exceptions to this as well.
Sigh I miss the old format of GS and I hope this one is temporary.
yea if the child ends up being a serial killer that slices up people everyday then it would be a one way ticket to the looney bin for that child, definitely can't be unconditional love for such a child so even in parent-child there are limits
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WRONG. I do feel unconditional love for someone, dunno why though. Unconditional love is just like self satisfaction in Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. There are some people who love someone or people or something and don't want anything back. It is bigger than being selfish. The feeling is amazing when you realise you unconditionally love someone.
how far can that unconditional love go though for that other person. the "as long as a person's self respect is still intact and is not being compromised in any way" is a limit put on love relationships. if a person is hurtful would there still be unconditional love?
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yea if the child ends up being a serial killer that slices up people everyday then it would be a one way ticket to the looney bin for that child, definitely can't be unconditional love for such a child so even in parent-child there are limits
I vaguely remember watching several years ago on TV...how there were these criminals who were going to receive the death penalty or something like that ...and their parents (mothers, I think) were making appeals ..in the hope that the decision be changed. They knew that what their children did was wrong...and that no excuses could be made...but it still tore them up.
Yes, there are limits and exceptions. But I think that parents come close to unconditional love.
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Wait forgot to say, unconditional love is most of the times one sided love. SIGH! :(
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This layout is so boring!
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Wait forgot to say, unconditional love is most of the times one sided love. SIGH! :(
you dont' think the one sided love has limits?
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a friend of mine had posted this once:
*Let me try express Unconditional love for my future wife:
Darling, I love you even if you hate me* *
I love you even if you become horribly ugly
I love you even you would not look after our kids & you would sell them into prostitution.
I love you even if you would poison our kids.
I love you even if you would kill our kids & cut them to pieces & eat them.
I love you even if you would kill my parents, friends, neighbors, colleagues in cold blood.
I love you even if you would have sex with every other man except me & would not even think about me
I love you even if you became a serial psychopathic killer, killing & raping innocent children.
I love you even if you would try bomb our country with an Atomic bomb.
I love you even if you would cut off my body parts & ate them, all the while abusing me.
I love you even if you'd kill me & rejoice over my dead body.*
Maybe that would be Unconditional Love even if it's one sided. Should such a "love" be Encouraged at all though?
If this is love then I don't want such a Love because even though the feeling would be Incomparable its so harmful.
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you dont' think the one sided love has limits?
You know this can also depend upon issues like self-esteem. If a woman stays with a man who beats the crap out of her.........is it because she has "unconditional love" for him? Or could it also be that her perceptions of herself and her husband are so warped...that she has issues differentiating between what is love and what isn't?
Or how about a case where one is literally obsessed with another person (let's say it's one-sided) to the point that he/she is viewed as perfect....and there the individual can to to any lengths (could even kill) for him/her. In an extreme example such as this...there may not be limits.
I think one-sided love can have limits. A person can eventually wake up and realize that they've wasted so much time and energy on a person who does not feel the same way. They could snap out of it.
I think all relationships have boundaries...which are limits. But in some...there may be greater tolerance than others.
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I see unconditional love as compassion and unconditional acceptance. It is possible.
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a friend of mine had posted this once: *Let me try express Unconditional love for my future wife:
Darling, I love you even if you hate me* * I love you even if you become horribly ugly I love you even you would not look after our kids & you would sell them into prostitution. I love you even if you would poison our kids. I love you even if you would kill our kids & cut them to pieces & eat them. I love you even if you would kill my parents, friends, neighbors, colleagues in cold blood. I love you even if you would have sex with every other man except me & would not even think about me I love you even if you became a serial psychopathic killer, killing & raping innocent children. I love you even if you would try bomb our country with an Atomic bomb. I love you even if you would cut off my body parts & ate them, all the while abusing me. I love you even if you'd kill me & rejoice over my dead body.*
Maybe that would be Unconditional Love even if it's one sided. Should such a "love" be Encouraged at all though?
If this is love then I don't want such a Love because even though the feeling would be Incomparable its so harmful.
That is not love. That is lack of a person's ability to stand up for what they think is right and stand up for their own selves. This is unhealthy obsession.
I don't think love necessarily means sacrifice and tolerance. It means acceptance, but allows you to disagree AND distance yourself from the other person. You can accept someone and have compassion for them without EVER liking them. That would be true unconditional love - without any conditions attached WHATSOEVER.
There are people in my life that I care about, but don't like. I don't hate them. I care about them and their well-being, but don't want them in my life.
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No such thing as unconditional love.
It partially exists in poetry, partially I meant. :)
Since love satisfies one's own self 'need to love', by default love is conditional.