uff my mother in law

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Please Nadz, man up. It doesn't matter if it starts snowing in Peshawar, TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER WITH YOU, and tell MIL sternly, "Ammi app please rest karay, we'll be back soon" That's ALL. If she tries to force you to leave her, AGAIN tell her, to go rest. bus. This is not rocket science. Goshh!!!

Instead of this rettaa that you have going on about UK UK UK, do something with your life. Ya you married someone special, but that doesn't mean you're not responsible for making YOUR LIFE easier, this is not his job. IT'S YOURS.

SO you wanna get things done? THAN GET THEM DONE.

Get up off YOUR butt and change YOUR LIFE, no one else will do this for you. To bring change in your life, you needs to change what you're doing right now.

So you're MIL doesn't like your cooking??? LEARN FROM HER, and do her a "favor." While you're in the kitchen let her know you got two kids and are standing in this kitchen and later on YOU'll be applying for jobs FOR your husband, SOO YAA this is ahsaan. And if she tries to shut you down, tell her to continue teaching you how to cook, because you don't have a 100 years to stand in the kitchen. All this with a smile of course.

You're husband isn't looking for jobs??? You start looking for them, instead of wasting time on GS. At dinner talk about your husband in a positive manner, so he gains some self-confidence and respect in himself.

You feel like you're not a part of the family??? Pick one Surah out of the Quran, and have a Halaqa session for 10-15 mins everyday after Maghrib prayer. DO five verses everyday, and discuses the translation and involve everyone in the family to share their input/ understanding on those verses. They seem religious, so this will only bring everyone closer, you will get all the credit for starting something amazing. May turn into a family tradition.

DO something for yourself, STOP depending on others for your happiness.

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y r u stressing out so much in advance. Let the time come n assess situation then. Maybe when the time comes for actual bringing of ur daughter, maybe ur husband or whoevers supposed to bring her wont be able to or maybe you would actually want her to go cuz u ll b tied up with two babies. Let the time come. No point in worrying in advance and affect ur unborn babys health.Also learn to ignore small things. From ur posts it seems u take every small thing seriously and sress about it. Not good.

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Isn't your daughter a toddler? What on earth is a toddler going to do at a wedding?- organize it? Make the food? You want to go back to the UK for the birth of the 2nd child, so go. Your husband supported that anyways. If the MIL is more worried about your little girl being at the wedding then that's just ridiculous. Take your daughter with you, you're her mother. You're raising her. Not your MIL.

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Cool story. Needs more dragons and stuff.

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:khumar: PTV prime time Drama hai yeh thread ..Staying tuned :smiley:

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you forgot the witches and princess and oh a fairy

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what I conclude from the thread is your inlaws are really very seedhay saadhay people. i wonder who would separate from their such young a child and send them over to attend a marriage ceremony of a phupo. duh. maybe all those guppies here making fun.

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Nadz123 I can really feel wat u r going through. I been there went through all this bt only for few months. Its easy for everyone to say that u can go out, socialise do all that u do in england. But its nt. So many barriers exist. Also regardless of how gud inlaws r, there is g8 difference in lifestyle and thinking and nt easy to adjust.

I dont think ur husband had great chances of getting job there, due to economy and overall siruation. Start planning if he doesnt get a job, wat he wants to do. Maybe move back. Without a job how long can he afford. his nt getting a job can work in ur benefit . convince him to move back if he doesnt get job soon.

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If you have nothing positive to contribute then spare us.

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I can understand the rest of your post, but as far as the jobs part is concerned, I dont think the job situation is any better in the UK than it is in Pakistan.....unless he is willing to do odd jobs, which he can do just as well in Pakistan?

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Agree.. I think most of us would go a bit crazy if we went and had to live somewhere where we hardly ever got to leave the house.. as well as all those other things that are different..