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I have never gone myself, but I know of buses full of people who go down to Chicago especially to find themselves a mate.
You could do the normal chai ceremonies and go fishing in your local community/neighbouring cities for girls like most other families do. It is quite tedious, but it seems the only way to get things done … at least for the vast majority of Pakistanis.
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Chai ceremonies happen when there is someone around to do it...What we have here is a man marooned in a sea of social wasteland...
I am seriously thinking of calling Aunt Daisy on this one...
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Those rishta aunties are a total waste of space (no offence Aunty Daisy).
They will suck every penny out of you and promise to introduce you to your dream girl. Go forth with caution Lajawab if that is the route you want to pursue.
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Lajo, u dont know any muslim girls at all? do you have relatives there that could help you out?
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Lajo, you're simply 'old' first and then mature I guess.
Btw... I'm only a wifey-material from distance. Kareeb say I'm quite short-tempered.
ISNA conventions are quite popular or you can resort to online matrimonial sites. I'm sure you'll find plenty of sisters over there.
I know of a friend who signed up on a matrimonial site and is getting married to a very nice lady, masha'Allah. Therefore, all such websites aren't bad and have many good people looking for their prospective hubby/wife.
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I dont’ really have time to read through 80 ++ posts, so please be patient if I’m repeating what someone else has said.
First thing, there is no such thing as a “better” girl raised in pak. You’ve good girsl there, you’ve good girls here (as hard as it is to believe). Just an example: my two year old cousins have grown fond of disgusting punjabi gaaliyan. It’s funny but it’s sad at the same time; I’ve never seen any two year olds, desi, non desi, yelling out "M-F! F! etc etc etc.
Don’t fall into the bullshiit of how ABCD girls are slutty or not worth anything, unfortunately you find that attitude too much among desis. 
Wherever you have more people who love you and genuinely care about you and wnat to see you happy, marry there, be it Pak or US. You can have American-money expensive weddings in Pak, you can have simple weddings here in the US. And if you’re really torn, then do a small party/reception in each place, that’s what we’re doing 
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Stay away from the ISNA convention if you are looking for a life long partner. That place is infested with teeny boppers and comes alive at night with the smell of cigarettes in the lobby - yuck!!
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everyone keeps advising lajo to “go to the islamic conventions like ISNA, MSA etc etc to meet girls. There are a lot of good girls there.” But the thing is, since they are islamic conventions, all the girls are covered in burkha or hijaab. You can’t see their body. What if lajo falls in love with a girl there, and on the wedding night finds out that girl is flat chested. :yukh: Man, I don’t know how some people get married to girls without doing proper “inspection.” She better have the “goods” if she wants to hook up with me.
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^ yeah well, you wait 'till you’re 30 and nobody wants you - then you’ll be of the same mindset as other 30 year olds who settle down into the “I’ll take whatever you have, baby” line.
Right now, you might think you’re all wise, but your testosterone levels are still too high.
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It is also a sunnah to marry a women 15 years older than the groom. e.g Hadhrat Khadija:razi:
That was the wrong pointer to the Definition of Sunnah and a disrespect.
You may not be aware of it but the sentence did mock someone. who? you also know.
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I got ONE word for you. BROTHELS!!!
I would screw a whore any day over marrying a flat chested, no booty having girl.
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Somehow that sounds so dismal…
PCG, we marry late in my family and although I may be in my 30s, I won’t take whatever comes my way…
There are a couple of ladies in my family who lived and are living the life of spinsters because it was better for them to live alone than to settle for whatever comes their way…
It’s not a matter of just getting married but to be part of a good family with a partner with a moral, ethical and educated upbringing…
I can settle for less but never for whatever…
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^ ur in ur 30’s?! 
i never knew…
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What was your guess Sadzzz?
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yeh i bet ur chest is bigger than most girls. aren’t u proud
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23
Aishaaaa 
thats halarious
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Laja - come on, NO WAY!! I had you pegged as a much younger 18 or 19.......
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^ yeah me too.. i was just being nice by saying 23
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If Lajawab is 18 then, I’m not born yet :halo: