'tum' yaa 'aap'

Rukhsarbibi · May 12, 2005, 6:29pm

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Minah it is more polite to say "aap’ rather than “tum” Some people like FG’s friend might fiind it disrespectful if refered to as tum. I know w/ elders you always say “aap” out of respect.

minah_pa · May 12, 2005, 6:31pm

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Thank you

ahmadjee · May 12, 2005, 6:31pm

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Minah Baji, app sounds polite and is generally used for elders or people unacquainted. Tum is more frank and is used for people of same age. You can say 'app' is like how Japanese use 'san'.

In my household everyone calls each other app. I even call my little daughter app. But I know families where 'tum' is more prevalent.

suroor_ca02 · May 12, 2005, 6:31pm

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we call each other "app". he sometimes says 'tum' as well. doesnt matter though. whatever one is comfortable with.

Verizon · May 12, 2005, 6:35pm

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I prefer aap aswell but unfortunately .........

Mr_Fraudia · May 12, 2005, 6:36pm

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^ you dont get called "tu" or ' abay oye" do ya? :)

larki · May 12, 2005, 6:38pm

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^ :D

minah_pa · May 12, 2005, 6:40pm

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I understand, thank you, ahmadjee

blushing_vision · May 12, 2005, 6:40pm

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aap :)

CheGuvera · May 12, 2005, 6:41pm

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If anybody that woman needs a slapping....

larki · May 12, 2005, 6:42pm

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i didn't know "hum" is the polite word for "mein"...

i don't know if any of you know french but the whole "aap"/"tum" deal is similar with "vous"/"tu" pronouns, which is nice.

funguy · May 12, 2005, 6:44pm

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But seriously, don't 'tum' girls feel being addressed as 'aap' by him is less intimate?. It's so formal. Don't you feel like his mom when he calls you 'aap'?

Rukhsarbibi · May 12, 2005, 6:45pm

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Yep - reminds me of vous/tu as well.
I call myself Hum sometimes too and then my husband goes “hum? who else was there?”

funguy · May 12, 2005, 6:46pm

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abay oye kahaan thaa tu...HUM kab say intizaar farma rahay thai

larki · May 12, 2005, 6:47pm

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yeah i thought "hum" was used as a plural like "nous" in french...

Rukhsarbibi · May 12, 2005, 6:50pm

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It is I believe in proper urdu same as “nous” in french. But a lot of people use it to refer to themselves. Again as a politeness factor. An aunt of mine says ‘hum’ quite a bit when refering to herself and she said she was taught that ‘main’ sounds inappropriate so you should respect yourself and refer to yourself as ‘hum’

larki · May 12, 2005, 6:54pm

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hmmmm thanks for explaining it. i still prefer "mein", less confusing and nicer...you know, instead of saying something like "hum ja rahain hai" which sounds plural, "mein jarahi hoon" sounds singular.

Sidra54 · May 12, 2005, 6:54pm

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it depends on who you have for company

ahmadjee · May 12, 2005, 6:55pm

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'hum' sounds so cocky

funguy · May 12, 2005, 6:57pm

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^ I know. It sounds so full of it...even an element of narcism.