Tum vs Aap

[Jolie]

Re: Tum vs Aap

@redvelvet

Both my parents use aap for everyone, mashaAllah. So, I was raised by both of them…but especially by my mother to use ‘aap’ for everybody regardless of age and relations. But I picked up the ‘tum’ habit from my friends at school. So, it’s become a habit to use ‘tum’ for friends and cousins that are younger or within my age range. Gotten scoldings from my mom; I need to go revert back to the former, more classier way.

My Father has always used the word aap for all his children even when we were young (and notoriously shararti), and same is the case with my uncles. My parents use the Punjabi variant of aap when talking to each other or people in general.