Trying to Conceive (The highs and lows)

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Re: Trying to Conceive (The highs and lows)

Thanks KS09 your post was really helpful.
we are also planning to go for ivf inshAllah. We are in karàchi going to concept fertility.
i dont know why but i am still emotionally struggling for this decision.
i dont want to discuss it to anyone and dont want to tell anyone as i am afraid how they are going to react and how is it going to affect my future babies.
I dont know how is it where u live but here in karachi in my family i have never seen anyone discussing such things… Although i am sure people may have get some kind medical help to have babies.
Alhumdulillah i have my husbands support and he is okay with sharing our experience with others but i dont feel comfortable.
but i think i have to change myself and be strong and face it

@KS09

Ladies, I’m really not understanding why there is shame in IVF or why it’s such a huge decision for some of you? There is nothing to be ashamed of. I’m happy to share my ivf stories and experience with others in the hope that it could help someone. Usually if i tell someone we’re undergoing an ivf treatment they’ll give me a dua.. what’s the harm in that?
I’ve come across a couple of ladies on GS who feel that IVF is too big a jump and that somehow it makes them feel even more infertile. I believe that IVF exists because Allah swt allowed it to, and Allah allowed for this method to work. What’s the shame in that?
And when you’re so desperate to have a baby that you cry constantly, IVF is nothing compared to the bigger picture of having a baby. And when you’re so desperate the costs associated will also mean nothing. I’ve spent over $20k (Australian) and by no means am i a rich person, we just budgeted to allow ourselves to try it.

There’s no point in sitting at home and moaning and crying about it. You have to go out and help yourself. Allah will help those that help themselves. At the end of the day, it’s not IVF giving you a baby.. it’s still Allah swt blessing you

I don’t know if there’s any point to what i’ve just written.. just trying to say that IVF is nothing to be ashamed of.