bebo
December 6, 2009, 12:10am
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i’m sorry but i find this a very naive point of view. i do hope for your sake that when you have children that staying home or living with the inlaws is possible for you, but your opinion is actually kind of insulting to those parents who have to work and have no choice but to leave their kids with caregivers. plenty of kids are raised this way with no negative effects from being left with a nanny, and plenty of mothers raise their kids this way and have successful careers. besides, not every woman takes to motherhood like a duck to water- i have friends who have undergone identity crises because all of a sudden they’re thrust into this new “mommy” role and don’t know who they are anymore beyond that. so for some women, that time working away from kids can actually be a sanity-saver and can help them be better mom’s in the long run.
to wait to have athe idea of waiting to have a child until everything is perfect is like living in a dreamland. there will never be a perfect time to have a child. there will never be enough time or enough money for you to say, ok, now i’m going to have a child. you just go ahead and have a baby and you work around them. i’m not saying people with nothing but 2 cents to their name should breed like rabbits- i’m talking about your average, educated, employed, healthy couple.
plus, child specifically until one person can stay home with them? that’s pure luxury living in the West where two incomes are more or less a must to run a household. i would rather have my baby be looked after by a qualified nanny at home or in a daycare, so that i could work and be able to provide for them in many more ways than just changing diapers and feeding them.
X2 - lol!
I agree with most of what you said but I do think that planning is very essential when it comes to the decision of having kids. It can be matter of financial stability or just mental prepertaion but planning your family is a wise thing to do.