We hear it so very often, the guy/gal backed off in a relationship, why? Why do they do that? For me simple answer is: Their love wasn’t true. Balls or no balls, if the person is truly in love, they will take a stand, boy or a gal period.
I heard this “True” story a couple of days ago, and thought I wud share with y’all.
The guy fell in love with a girl (who supposedly din’t have a good character). The parents refused and did not agree despite guy’s best efforts. He, together with sm friends, took the girl to the mosque, got nikkah and brought his dulhan home. Mother fainted!
The guy, of course, asked his mother for forgiveness countless times, but all in vain. He came to USA for his further medical education, leaving wife behind, who joined him six months later. She discovered that the guy cries everynight in his dreams begging his mother to forgive him. She simple asked him one day that she wants to go back and live with his parents for a little while. She went back and lived with saas-susar for 1 year and now, the saas susar live in USA with both beta and bahu and they love them both
Hats off to those who take a stand, boy or a gal! Others with balls or no balls or 1 or 3, are simply useless piece of trash!
Another woman blaming men and playing the 'victim' card.
Women cheat and lie to men as well. It's life. Either you can handle the ups-and-downs of life and keep moving forward like a mature adult or you can whine and blame (everything under the sun) like a spoiled little brat.
The older you grow the mature you become. Time & "Zamana" is the biggest teacher. There are several true love stories scattered, the one mentioned above is not even strong enough to be called "True Love" :) I dont mean to offend Larki-NY but in my books it is love but is it true? If it was true why did he even cry for begging his mother to forgive him? Ethically, morally as well as religiously a man is free to marry anyone even against the wishes of his parents. (Woman needs Wali's permission - only religiously).
If a man acts like a bollywood hero and things work out, it’s true love and man has an extra pair of balls. Otherwise, he is a lollywood hero and not much of a man.
Any man who "falls in love" and then doesn't have hte himmat to stand up for her or fight, he's not much of a man IMO. Why fall in love wiht a girl if ure not even gonna stand up for her? If you know how your parents are, why even bother going through that crap? It just reeks of immaturity and selfishness and arrogance. Prevention is better than cure, like m_I said. if you know how your family is the type that'll have prblms with any girl you choose, its better to not get involved than go through the drama afterwards
Well EMM i'm sure it goes both ways, if girls parents object, she should fight for it too. BUT i guess we hear more about guys and guys' families who do that to the girl, so thats why we say "guy should take a stand." But I think it's also, a girls reputation is more nazuk, if she fights to be wit a guy, its considered pretty bad, esp if she runs awy or fights iwt her parents about him. I would think a guy's family's reputation wouldn't be as trashed as the girls' would be?
In my experience, I have noticed more girls leaving guys than the opoosite scenario. Happened to four of my close friends, and two of them ended up being emotional wrecks. Both were quite good students studying at Top 10 schools before the break up, one had to drop out for lower grades, other suffered from major depressive disorder for about three years.
Which one of you women-hating idiots fails to appreciate the significance of the slash.i.e. Gal/guy. Two words for you my sweets. 1: Comprehension 2: Skills.
