True Love??

[nia_khan]

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its nice to hear a good ending every now and then :)

[fghd]

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^ wat is good ending? is there a specific criteria for that kind a ending in a relationship? I think if one’s breaks a relationship that could be a good ending too. Y do we assume that if a girl gets a guy that she wanted and got to marry with him that IS for sure the most happiest ending and the luckiest person of all and b/c of them we pray for the same thing

goodness gracious I say that all the time and will say it again that there is more to the world then just having to worry about who gets who … did it ever occur to u that the kind a world we r living in …will we be successfull enuff to raise our kids on the right path ?? and yes it is possible without marrying someone that we loved …

[Ex-Guppan]

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@LuxuryItem

Another woman blaming men and playing the 'victim' card.

Women cheat and lie to men as well. It's life. Either you can handle the ups-and-downs of life and keep moving forward like a mature adult or you can whine and blame (everything under the sun) like a spoiled little brat.

daddy I want it now now now...

^^ If one reads ur post, one can tell Who is blaming Who? The point was not to blame anyone, I simply admired those who take a stand, both men and women.

[Ex-Guppan]

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@Sara516

Any man who “falls in love” and then doesn’t have hte himmat to stand up for her or fight, he’s not much of a man IMO. Why fall in love wiht a girl if ure not even gonna stand up for her? If you know how your parents are, why even bother going through that crap? It just reeks of immaturity and selfishness and arrogance. Prevention is better than cure, like m_I said. if you know how your family is the type that’ll have prblms with any girl you choose, its better to not get involved than go through the drama afterwards

Sara, golden words you said ^^ :k:

[Ex-Guppan]

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@Najim

The older you grow the mature you become. Time & "Zamana" is the biggest teacher. There are several true love stories scattered, the one mentioned above is not even strong enough to be called "True Love" :) Why wud you say so? What makes it STRONG ENOUGH?? Isn't it strong enough that they both took a stand? When every1 else called the gal a bad character, he said, he's in love with her and he believes she is good at heart and he'll marry her no matter what! **I dont mean to offend Larki-NY but in my books it is love but is it true? **If it was true why did he even cry for begging his mother to forgive him? He begged his mother for his actions hurt the mother. But his love was way too strong to give in to mother's narazgi. Nuthin wrong in trying to resolve it with mother, doesn't make the love weak or unture. *Ethically, morally as well as religiously a man is free to marry anyone even against the wishes of his parents. **We all know what religion tells us, how many in PK folow religion? zaat-paat, Jutt hon aur wo bhi "waraich, or lungrial or ghumman, only Jutt?? marrying their kids for degrees, grades, status, jheiz. In that if a guy takes a stand for his love and then tries to have parents accepting them as well. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. *(Woman needs Wali's permission - only religiously) **this is the first one I heard.

Evilmastermindwhy do everyone expect from a guy to take a stand?

*EMM: Am talking about both taking a stand not only guy. 1, 2, or 3 balls thingy was just a joke. *

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*Hitchki: Thank you :) *

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**Initiator: **Sorry to hear about your bad experiences. That's exactly why I was saying that whoever takes that road, should have enough courage or don't step in it. No one has the right to ruin anyone's life. If one knew that his/her parents won't agree and that the person cannot take a stand then "Stay Out of It" period.

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[PhatBalongri]

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I have a feeling EMM couldnt take a stand for someone and hence is annoyed by people expecting people to take stands

[fghd]

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@PhatBalongri

I have a feeling EMM couldnt take a stand for someone and hence is annoyed by people expecting people to take stands

aisa kabhi mouqa hi nahee aya

[PhatBalongri]

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r u sure? Weren’t u the one talking about picking someone over education or was it education over sonmeone

[S02]

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@skhan

Life isn’t an Indian flick. The sooner these romeo and juliet wannabes figure that out, the better for everyone.

Absolutely true. And the sooner we learn that being married to someone isn’t JUST love (tho love is a huge part of it), the better. You need to be able to actually live with that person. For the rest of your life.

[Dushwari]

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wonder why people can only "F A L L " in love. there is never a time that people "rise to" love.

maybe hikmat hey iss mey.

wrong choices = wrong consequences.
but empathically,
to make the best of a worsening situation would call for compassion and forgiveness and ground rules to stay together and make amends.

[fghd]

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@PhatBalongri

r u sure? Weren’t u the one talking about picking someone over education or was it education over sonmeone

I thing I was but what that has to do to take a stand for someone…that was just a question that popped in my head …not that it actually happend

[nia_khan]

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@Evilmastermind

^ wat is good ending? is there a specific criteria for that kind a ending in a relationship? I think if one’s breaks a relationship that could be a good ending too. Y do we assume that if a girl gets a guy that she wanted and got to marry with him that IS for sure the most happiest ending and the luckiest person of all and b/c of them we pray for the same thing

goodness gracious I say that all the time and will say it again that there is more to the world then just having to worry about who gets who … did it ever occur to u that the kind a world we r living in …will we be successfull enuff to raise our kids on the right path ?? and yes it is possible without marrying someone that we loved …

sometimes just take things the way they are hunny

love story that worked very well.. why 2 people stood by each other

[Sheeda_Telli]

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@Larki-NY

We hear it so very often, the guy/gal backed off in a relationship, why? Why do they do that? For me simple answer is: Their love wasn't true. Balls or no balls, if the person is truly in love, they will take a stand, boy or a gal period.

I heard this "True" story a couple of days ago, and thought I wud share with y'all.

The guy fell in love with a girl (who supposedly din't have a good character). The parents refused and did not agree despite guy's best efforts. He, together with sm friends, took the girl to the mosque, got nikkah and brought his dulhan home. Mother fainted!

The guy, of course, asked his mother for forgiveness countless times, but all in vain. He came to USA for his further medical education, leaving wife behind, who joined him six months later. She discovered that the guy cries everynight in his dreams begging his mother to forgive him. She simple asked him one day that she wants to go back and live with his parents for a little while. She went back and lived with saas-susar for 1 year and now, the saas susar live in USA with both beta and bahu and they love them both :)

Hats off to those who take a stand, boy or a gal! Others with balls or no balls or 1 or 3, are simply useless piece of trash!

and so wat was the point of it again? or let me guess there was nobody online .. rite? lol get a freakin life .. there aint **** called love ... its all abt taking yo chances and standing up to ur parents aint nothing to be proud of u fool ..

[Ex-Guppan]

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^^ You are nasty and rude, not to mention ignorant and a complete ninkampoop!

Love? Love-Marriage.... tumhari samajh mein nahin ayengee. Move on!

[Ex-Guppan]

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@Dushwari

wonder why people can only "F A L L " in love. there is never a time that people “rise to” love.

maybe hikmat hey iss mey.

wrong choices = wrong consequences.
but empathically,
to make the best of a worsening situation would call for compassion and forgiveness and ground rules to stay together and make amends.

^^ Kiyoonkeh … Payar kia nahin jata, ho jata hai at times at first sight, or at times thru friendship, knowing the other person etc etc.

For those who believe in “making onself fall in love” that is, arranged marriages: There’s nothing wrong with that. For some people it is okay and some cannot stand that idea. So whatever works for you. If you can make yourself fall in love, i.e. after marriage, go for it. It doesn’t appear natural to me, it’s more of making it work.

Ones who believe in falling in love wud not accept or go for the arranged or making urself fall in love idea, and vice versa. So whatever floats your boat

[hussain87]

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@Larki-NY

^^ Kiyoonkeh … Payar kia nahin jata, ho jata hai

voila piyar ho giya lol:wub: …aur piyaar k kitnai totkay hain? …

[misguided_Identity]

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@Larki-NY

^^ Kiyoonkeh … Payar kia nahin jata, ho jata hai at times at first sight, or at times thru friendship, knowing the other person etc etc.

For those who believe in “making onself fall in love” that is, arranged marriages: There’s nothing wrong with that. For some people it is okay and some cannot stand that idea. So whatever works for you. If you can make yourself fall in love, i.e. after marriage, go for it. It doesn’t appear natural to me, it’s more of making it work.

Ones who believe in falling in love wud not accept or go for the arranged or making urself fall in love idea, and vice versa. So whatever floats your boat

lol you don’t just fall in love.

Love is built by us, it becomes stronger the more we get closer to them, the further we go along with them in life. Love doesn’t just suddenly hit you but you realise after a while that you are starting to feel certain emotions/love for one person which have been developing since the past weeks/months or so on.

Rofl , theres no such thing as falling in love at first time , that is merely infatuation or lusting and it is quite common for one to become confused.

[LuxuryItem]

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^

Very good post. Misguided dude, you are one sensible lad!

[Ex-Guppan]

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@misguided_Identity

lol you don't just fall in love.

Love is built by us, it becomes stronger the more we get closer to them, the further we go along with them in life. Love doesn't just suddenly hit you but you realise after a while that you are starting to feel certain emotions/love for one person which have been developing since the past weeks/months or so on.

Rofl , theres no such thing as falling in love at first time , that is merely infatuation or lusting and it is quite common for one to become confused.

I agree with you partially. Yes, Love requires effort and committment and of course time plays a major role too. But the thing about "love at first sight" or "love" ..... you won't understand that, unless you have been through that experience. Also I did mention that at times we fall in love through knowing the other person more.

There's no need to be rude or nasty towards those who speak in favor of falling in love. People have different views, approach and experiences.

[Ex-Guppan]

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@nia_khan

sometimes just take things the way they are hunny

love story that worked very well.. why 2 people stood by each other

^^ shweeetttt

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