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Maybe he was a religious fellow, who knows. When you meet someone for the first time, certain things make an impression and that’s what I remember the most about that specific guy.
Sadzz didn’t do the trolley sessions so let’s find out from her how she got hitched? 
To my daughter I would be like beti jaao and find yourself a good man and we’ll get you married. Please don’t ask me to invite ppl over for tea - it is pure torture.
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Rukhs, it's not torture just for the girl ... imagine the parents and how they feel. I'm sure you know what I mean.
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^ Yeah definitely for the parents as well. And let's not discount the guy. He is nervous too being placed in a totally awkward position.
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Vertical Sir, if you go to someones house and they bring out women serving tea so you can pick one out. There is no exchange of words, its just looks thats all. I didnt expect the girl to start talking to me about her favorite sex position or her favorite radio station (which there is only one in Pkaistan). All you can do is look at the face and judge. In this case i did have 2% more interaction and in that she was just sitting there dumb as a door knob, while I was having foot sex with her sister trying to engage the dumbino in a convo.
Get my drift.
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You missed my comment by 2 miles. reread my response and few posts before that. It may make sense.
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We cannot take trolleys in to our drawing room since the coridoor between the drawing room and the kitchen is a step higher than both these rooms. For this and other reasons we don't even have a trolley :D
I never serve the tea when some retard is over for this parade thing. I may just take it in and slam it in front of them but serving...nope sire! Usually I take so long in the kicthen that mum has to come in eventually frowing at me and then I beg her to take the stuff in herself or I will take even longer. Poor mum she is so swet she usually gives in. Otherwise thank God for sisters. We help eachother out. I will take stuff in when someone comes for her and she will do the same for me when its my turn.
Even then its alays a disaster whenever someone is here in ref to me. Even if I try I cannot be normal. I just feel uncomfortable, uneasy and not myself and nothing in the world can hide that from any observer. Usually people think I am rude, highly reserved and not interested!
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wah ray fehmi, inna attitude…u only slam it in front of them?..and the sensitive morons think you are rude and uninterested!..damn man these observers can be so wrong na, hay na?..
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Ofcourse slamming is not slamming in the literal sense of the word, it’s just putting it on the table instead of serving everyone plates and food, even though I wish I could slam it 
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yeah of course, i get that....u mean basically everything else metaphorically than the literal tones of 'serving'....:)
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Slamming plates in front of men no wonder why woman beating is allowed in Islam, finally it makes sense.
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Its just men Verizon, nothing special!
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I love serving the tea! i find it really funny, maybe because im usually so nervous, but its quite amusing asking how many sugars they take and passing the plate of samosay around. They watch your every move, the way you stir the sugar in the tea, i dont know why but iv always done it clock-wise and at one of these meetings potential mother-in-law asked me to stir her sugar in anti clock-wise…i thought “freak!” and then when you pass the samosay around to potential husband, he wants to take more than one, but is being polite and takes 1 instead, i suppose it doesnt really help if im laughing while doing this. i always feel sorry for the bloke…he wants to talk but cant as his mother gives him this evil look.
At one of these meetings the blokes phone starting ringing, his mother swore at him to turn it off, and he was like “but mum i have to take this call” bless, the mother was so embarassed and he answered as if he was sitting at his own house, he was proper giving it what for on the phone too, he used naughty language!! his mum swore at him and i laughed! i was told to leave the room after that 
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^ haha, I wouldn't be suprised if that phone call was no accident.
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Hey Mohabbat..you are a pro…anticlockwise, clockwise..know the evil eye and all..kya baat hai..so buying the new pair of shoes was just an excuse eh?
By Abuse I mean bayghairati …That’s the stage where I am at. It is the last stage of this process. Even when I know things are not gonna happen…I make sure I have a good time, I eat what is there and crack weird jokes…sometimes life becomes a lot easier if the girl rejects you instead of you making an excuse that makes you feel shallow.
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M_M - Wow, dodged a bullet with the potential m-i-l who wanted you to stir differently. Wonder what she was trying to prove by asking that? If you followed her orders promptly?
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So true Fayz, I’m usually hoping the guy will reject me too so I don;t have to convicne my parents. Saves sooo much trouble. My behaviour is a great help ofcourse! :halo:
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Fayz, the new shoes were for the guy i was meeting on my own..not the freak m-i-l.
what has tea stiring got to do with evil eye?
Minah...i know...i was so shocked, i looked at her as if "what the flip" and she repeated herself...i thought, o-kay whatever love...
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I would have given her a weird look and carried on clockwise 
, or say somehting like I cannot stir anticlockwise thats about as reasonable a problem as her request!You should have atleast asked her what the ‘logical’ reason behind the request was!
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i would have but 1. i was too busy lauging and 2. my daddi specifically told me not to speak otherwise id have to marry a cousin from back home...it was majburi that i couldn't speak.
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Reading all this, I have decided. I have some kids, I always look for ways to make their time on a therapist couch more cost effective. Sooooo, as a potential m-i-l I have to:
1 - set-up potentials
2 - act like a control fanatic
3 - then talk about child and potential with other parents as if they both aren't in room and are brainless
is 4 - pick out the one I like??
I think that ought to keep a therapist in business for my son. For my daughter all I have to do is dress her pretty and make her serve people she don't know?
Who knows, maybe in 3 or 4 years they will be on this board trading war stories, too. :D
Interesting :)