Have you been through the torture?
What do you ppl think of it. The pros and cons, is it in any sense productive.
Dont we have any other better means of doing the whole intro drama.
Whats the guyz/galz take on it ?
Feel free to share your experiences.
P.S plz stick to the topic
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hain? what are u talking about? When they wheel you into an operation room on a gurney?
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i purposely didnt explain the terms, coz I only want the players to speak, u my friend shall be seated in the audience…
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I had to go through that with when I was picking out a wife for myself, it is quite disgusting, something like a meat market, where a guy goes around and all virgins/chicks come out with tray and trolley for tea so you can see and sort of make adecision based on looks and what the parents tell you about her.
Very primitive. I refused, I told the mother of the girl thats fine she wants to come and push trays, thats fine but you gotta give me time to get to know her before the marriage/engagement. I am glad they agreed and I found out that the girls was not for me or better yet the girl didnt think that I was made for her, which is fine, I have been dejected, rejected, and de-selected before. Welcome to the meat market.
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Well there are various ways you can meet a person and this is one of them. This particular avenue has different stages to it
Embarrassment/Torture
Optimism
Frustration
Acceptance
Enjoyment
Abuse
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We should request a forum for newbies to post each other questions, while we amuse ourselves from the other forums, talk about heaven and hell.
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oh that!!!
Never been thru it. Oh well. Hm…I dunno if this counts, but one time, I think my parents wanted to show me off at this picnic. The couple throwing the party has a son about my age, and my father apparently really likes him or whatever. My parents had been talking to the guy when I was at the uni on the weekends…and I didn’t realize it until my sister told me AFTER the picnic that they probably wanted me to meet the family and the guy.
My father was so excited that I was coming along - it had been a hectic semester and it was the first weekend in a long time that I had come home to visit them. So they dragged me off to the picnic, and the only thing I found weird was that my mom was WANTING me to wear Gold instead of fake jewelry. Oh yeah and my dad was like “you’re looking gorgeous”…which kinda should have tipped me off right there.
shrugs
It wasn’t traumatizing at the time, because I was unaware what the parents were upto. Looks like something my parents had planned with the guy’s parents.
Last I heard recently, his mother has been hounding him to propose to me Desis, I swear.
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PCG but what u went thru is pretty okay, being present at the same event..what verizon has listed is a whole diff level.
I endured it once..was told that we were just going to meet some people, old family freinds or what nots and that this was being done very casually and only parents know the deal and they have been asked not to make a big show out of it, we just go meet and come back. but that was not the case..it became a drawing room parade.
I was ambushed, was pissed off about it told my folks that I am never doing anything remotely close to that.
introductions at shaadis and parties was a different thing and it was not bad.
My biggest issue was the expectations of some people who for some odd reason thought that I would marry their daughter, and when that did not happen they were really pissed at my folks. there are actually 2-3 people who are mad about it. dunno whats their deal.
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Hated it
Hated it
Hated it!
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Hmm..iv'e neverheard of this...
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I love this thread. Tell me some stories. I only shared one, I have been rejected, dejected and de-selected on a number of times.
Story Number #2. This family wanted my family to have a marriage between me and their daughter, Well I thought they meant the other daughter (the youngest) so I tld them well while we are on this subject can I skip daughter #2 and go for daughter #3. That family still doesnt talk with us and I still got my ass kicked by my grandmother at age 25.
I have been doing this since I was 23. Lets see how heated this thread gets andI may share a few more stories, I have a total of let me count hang on. 1=Lahore 2=Nowshera 3= Islamabad 4=CA 5= Lahore again. Hmm I think thats it.
Mods please dont delete this post this is my coded combination, so I can refer back.
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Iv already shared my most recent one...the silly nitwit who did nothing but stare at me for 2.5 hours. I swear, he was so boring. I can't believe i brought new shoes just for that.
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I dont know what the big deal is? I am cool as a cat at such gatherings and make the atmosphere completely relaxed for both parties.
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yeh, when ur chatting up her older sister :p
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M_M can you read and write urdu?
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is this a trick question? im having a blonde day today so please be nice
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Nahi yaar it was a simple question. If you dont then I can teach you
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really would you do that? iv been trying to persude my daddi to teach me for years!! but she won't :(
she says i should be proud to be Punjabi, theres no need to read,right or speak urdu, urdu is for posh people...
i would prefer to read rather than write, this way, when i qualify as a teaher, my goray kids will think im the coolest person in the world, il be able to read all those bilingual books in my classroom.
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I am sorry but your reasons for learning the language are not pure.
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yes they are! i would become the coolest teacher in the whole school.
anyway, why do u want to teach me?