Re: ‘‘Traditions’’
Applying ubtan to bride is NOT against Islam and you can consider this as a mayon rasam. Without the mixed gathering, music and dance, mayon rasam can be held within Islamic limit just for the sake of our traditions if you feel like doing it. If not, its upto you.
Nikah’s celebration is also NOT in Islam but we all know baraat function is hosted by the bride’s side in Pakistan. This is wrong but still our tradition. If a bride’s family cannot afford it, they can easily omit it. Valima is important is Islam.
Why don’t we give importance to changing traditions like baraat, jehaiz etc more than trying to insist on the importance of Nikah (which is a valid argument but does not harm anybody)? I feel things like Baraat, jehaiz, mixed gatherings etc should be changed first if we want to bring any positive change in the traditions in Pakistan. Over time, we will be able to change the thinking about the non-importance of rukhsati.