Tradgedy?

[Khumar]

Re: Tradgedy?

@KayZ

some men dont care but what do you mean by “real man”. i think it just varies from person to person.

The definition of a real man doesn’t vary from person to person.

@star4u

ExcusEme shak, I am not twisting anything. If they are not going behind their parents back then how come her parents don’t know anything .

And by the wAy even if the future husband says he has no problem with her having past relationship with another guy, later on he will keep reminding and taunting her about her past and could use that excuse to leave her.

If he has a problem with her having a relationship after he says he doesn’t have a problem then he has no right to leave her for it. Agar itni hi bari problem thi to pehlay kyon nahin muun phoota keh nahin behan tumhara kisi aur kay saath chakar chal raha tha, main nahin shadi kar sakta ab. How the hell did he find the balls after marriage to reject her past? Idiots.

@ShahreyarKhan

it is very easy to say it shouldnt matter or wouldnt matter. esp what i have seen in girls these days they dont think its an issue at all but the danagerous thing is what will they do when their assumption is wrong. if a girl said i dont think my husband will care, and he ends up making a big deal out of the pre-marital affair issue. what will she do then? or if a girl said i wont mind if my husband had a pre-marital affair, then what will she do when she finds out and indeed gets really upset?

naturally it is very easy to have opinions and stand by them in life but the real issue is what on earth we do when someone challenges them?

anyhow,
any examples of wives telling on theirs affairs, crushes or whatever to their husbands and their husband’s reactions? we see the vice versa example from the thread starter, but i looking for the wife specific example?

wife: oh btw i used to love someone else before i got married to you, but since you were well off, and etc and etc and etc i married you

husband: affair? oh really w/e

or

AFFAIR? WTF?

Affair: DEFINITION: a sexual relationship between two people who are not married to each other

Let’s for arguments sake assume they just met for coffee for 2 hours every month. No sexual relationship. Also, there isn’t anything wrong with a guy or a girl to find out their own marriage partner. Islam has given them this right. So who are you to deny them this right given to them by Allah himself?

Second. How about you speak for yourself if you want real life examples. You’re a guy (assuming). If a perfectly good potential comes to you, and tells you that I thought I was going to get married to this guy, but due to circumstances, it didn’t work out. Will you reject her? You get married to her, and then she tells you, will you divorce her even though she’s been nothing but a perfect wife to you?

If a husband does that, everyone would tell the wife forget it, it’s in the past. The main thing is that he loves you. If a fiance did that, same advice. A potential rishta, same advice given to the girl. Then why have double standards for the other girl** if she has done nothing wrong**?