ok
thinking of afterlife is not really morbid in my view thinking that you do have an expiry date makes you think about what you are doing today.
I know coming from me it may seem strange, being the big bad liberal "mod" muslim and what nots, but thats what I think.
I meant morbid in the sense of thinking about who gets what and pulling of 'plugs'
Having been in the situation of 'when to pull the plug' and 'who gets what' Its just not nice.
However, I don't have 'real' possessions (im so sorry shoes, I do love you like my children) so I don't really feel that it is important to focus on them.
I do think that once I have a family of my own (ha!) I probably would consider these things, especially finances.
especially finances.
I saw that coming!
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I need to do it in details. Wife has all my info but what if 'THAT' moment is the last moment for both of us. I need to pass that info to my family so our kids can be taken care of.
Organ donation, I can donate my organ when I am alive (kidney, blood, bone marrow) but after I am dead, I just think of my love ones. That would be such a emotional trauma for them. I cant see doctors cutting and opening freshly dead body of my love one so how can I take them through that torture.'
Would not loosing me in a millisecond (in case of accident) enough pain for them to handle then doctors/hospital calling them to give them the body so they can cut open it.
Nobility for me starts from home.
I know this may sound selfish to some people but this is my reason of not being a donor after my death
:k: well said TLK.
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so we hve 3 discussions going on in here, all good but diff
1) who has made any sort of arrangements
2) is organ donation allowed
3) why are masajid and imams the way they are
I suggets we split into three leave this as is, and split the other two topics into seperate threads but leave a link here noting that this dicussion started and warranted a separate discussion so there is it so we can do justice to all 3 topics.
I saw that coming!
Whatever Treva! I meant the state of finances left behind for my family!! I wouldnt want to leave them in debt or anything. I remember having to visit all the asian shops with my daddi when my mum had passed away, asking if my mum had any store credit left to pay off. We had to do it the day she was buried due to something my daddi said about death and debt.
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X2 you should really go back to pakistan and serve. Seriously we don;t need to be "white" to go third word countries.
Run an NGO or some thing, I am not joking.
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having said that, I loved that mullah who use to
1-sleep in the mosque
2-Will not remove his shoes in the mosque
3-fart loudly in the mosque.
Never met him, he was in the mosque where two of my teachers lived.
If I ever see him, I am going ask him for autograph. (only person on this planet I will ever ask for auto.)
That guy had rational-Balls to think out side on religious norm.
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ok guys…threads been split.
enjoy!
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AE, please take my post #31 to the appropriate split thread
ur in full swing today 
@ topic: I really don’t care at this time of my life. All I can do is ask my parents n loved ones in advance to forgive me for all the trouble I may have caused. Other than that, like I said, I don’t care.
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^ done@ TLK
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Poor AE, thanks for splitting it up :@:
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OK, to answer the original question, yes, hubby and I have talked about some stuff but more detailed work needs to be done.
May Allah protect us.
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I guess this should be more pertinent for those who are married, and/or have kids
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Does all this have to be done on legal documents or can a letter be drafted with our signature that states who gets what after we die (ex. kids, house, bank balance, cars)?
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Last Summer, I completed a legal vacation scheme (I am a law student) and one of the departments I worked in was wills and probate. It was quite sad reading peoples wills and then after their passing away, 'so-called' loved ones disputing about the deceased's wishes. It gave me food for thought.
Even though I am comparatively young (21), I have made a detailed list of where I want my assets to go after my passing away. Financial assets will go to parents if they outlive me and if not then it will be split equally between my siblings.
My main concern was not financial assets, but my possessions and I also want to leave things that others may not have thought I would want to leave them for. For example, my jewellery, I want to leave something for a lot of my friends and extended family. Clothes to charity etc etc.
Even where I would want to be buried.
I know this is really morbid, but who knows what is in store for us tomorrow. When I told my mum, she was very upset and found it hard to comprehend.
When I have more responsibilites i.e. a house, husband and children, I will look to modify it.
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It is a bit morbid to go through your things and figure out what goes to who and how to divide it but it has to be done if you want to make sure people dont squabble over it. Although I doubt any of mine would squabble. If my mother outlived me, Im sure she would be fair and do what is right.
But taking care of this is important...we just dont give it any thought.