It is seldom to come across someone who finds it easy to face the end of a life. This is why its natural that we resist preparing for it. When these grave decisions are unplanned for, they have to be made quickly along with immense stress which may cause a lot of unforeseen problems. Do you guys ever think about making such decisions in advance, put them in writing and tell your loved ones where it’s located, if needed?
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yes I do, lol but then I think I still have time. hehe
One thing I wan;t to do is donate my organs after I am dead. other then one eye I am donating every thing inshallah
you are right, if I die before getting married my sis should get my share of the wealth. hmmmm
Spcok WHAT KIND OF THREAD IS IT?? not nice not nice.
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it seems just like asking one what is her/his last wish, i want whatever blongs to me b donated as a charity to EIDHI FOUNDATION although it seems emotional but yes i would like myself alive in the charity works. that has been my utmost desire in life as well but somehow i cudn't do it, i wish that my money b of sum help to the poverty-stricken ppl n i cud b of sum help to my land though i wanted it to b done in life but....................................anyhow it is never too late.
yes.... my husband who is 26yrs old alrdy bought a piece of land for his grave and told me 2 months ago abt it... and all the important paper work is alrdy signed for donations of his organs......
yes I do, lol but then I think I still have time. hehe
You are thinking 'natural' death, what about unforeseen circumstances? Trust me, it takes less than a microsecond for fate to play its game on someone. One tiny lapse in judgment can end the lives of many.
You are thinking 'natural' death, what about unforeseen circumstances? Trust me, it takes less than a microsecond for fate to play its game on someone. One tiny lapse in judgment can end the lives of many.
I know, I am donating my stuff if its not natural death. My parts would be still use full.
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There's so much more than just wills and organ donations. For instance what happens or who gets to make the decision to pull the plug if one's on life support?
I am more concerned about the impact it will have on the people closest to me, including the ones that may be dependent on me later in life, or a life partner. I believe we live not just for ourselves, but for others too.
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Sorry Spocky, didnt mean to do that!
I dont think we really put a lot of thought into this topic because we believe we have time. I dont know what I would do in that case...
It is seldom to come across someone who finds it easy to face the end of a life. This is why its natural that we resist preparing for it. When these grave decisions are unplanned for, they have to be made quickly along with immense stress which may cause a lot of unforeseen problems. Do you guys ever think about making such decisions in advance, put them in writing and tell your loved ones where it's located, if needed?
spock, its not fully done, but I am doing it and need to finish it. its not just about what happens to my remains, and any wishes like where I am buried type of stuff, but about what happens to the kids incase something happens to both me and the woman.
right now we are going with the approach of one separate person controls the money and someone else is responsible for keeping them type of approach. begum and I also have to figure out who would be the best person for them to live with, how to determine what is the right amount to give to whoever they will be with,
it sounds very business and numbers and roles and responsibilities, but I want to do as much due diligence on my part. In general i dont think that my or begum's siblings will become some sort of money grubbing twits illtreating the kids or trying to swallow up whatever is left behind, but having this in place does not hurt, even if there is never really a need for it to be used or need to be used to control the situation.
spock, its not fully done, but I am doing it and need to finish it. its not just about what happens to my remains, and any wishes like where I am buried type of stuff, but about what happens to the kids incase something happens to both me and the woman.
right now we are going with the approach of one separate person controls the money and someone else is responsible for keeping them type of approach. begum and I also have to figure out who would be the best person for them to live with, how to determine what is the right amount to give to whoever they will be with,
it sounds very business and numbers and roles and responsibilities, but I want to do as much due diligence on my part. In general i dont think that my or begum's siblings will become some sort of money grubbing twits illtreating the kids or trying to swallow up whatever is left behind, but having this in place does not hurt, even if there is never really a need for it to be used or need to be used to control the situation.
That's great and that's the sort of answer I was expecting from a person I would look up to for advice. I am not yet at that stage where you are at, i.e. family and responsibilities, but what you just wrote (i.e. your biggest concerns being your loved ones, specifically your wife and kids) is a great reassurance and shows the true power of a family. Reminds me of a fugees song!
Sorry Spocky, didnt mean to do that!
I dont think we really put a lot of thought into this topic because we believe we have time. I dont know what I would do in that case...
No thats alright, we all learn something new every day :)
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Spock...I myself have not done this yet. Reason is because I feel that I do not have anything to give at this point and if I do I dont care what happens to it. If something happens to me I know that my family loves me and will do what is best for me in accordance to Islam.
Once I have a family of my own it will be an entirely different story.
**oh my god!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1111
we muslims really need to freakin grow. Islam is not a MAMBO JAMBOO of tradition. There were strict order aginst some practice 1400year ago because they could become some thing like Gothic-stuff.
THERE IS FREAKIN NEED TO ORGANS, I WILL DONATE MINE. I AM SURE GOD WONT ASK ME
WHEY DID YOU TRY TO SAVE A LIFE.
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**Nothing should stop you from going there my friend. Who cares if there's some jaded out Maulana jee sitting inside who you know doesn't make sense at all. You're going to the house of Allah, to attain a peace of mind and to establish a link with the creator.
How morbid.
My family know me well enough to know what I would want to be done. All my shoes will be buried with me. :D
Beautifully said. :k:
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it is true your family knows best if you are living with your parents. Typically a person living with their parents do not have too many possessions to worry about however after one gets married it might be a bit different.
I would hate to see my husband and/or my family fueding over what needs to be done to my body or whether or not the plug should be pulled. Or in the event that both husband and wife die at the same time…what happens to the kids and where do they go? family members often fight over custody of the kids when both parents are deceased.
Unfortunately people do fight after one’s death because everyone is so emotionally distraught. Having a living will and testament can put an end to potential family feuds.
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**Nothing should stop you from going there my friend. Who cares if there's some jaded out Maulana jee sitting inside who you know doesn't make sense at all. You're going to the house of Allah, to attain a peace of mind and to establish a link with the creator.
true and you never know who you will run into. There is a gentleman with the name of Imam Sanad, who is the imam at ICC Northbrook, in a time when I was really dismayed and disappointed in the religion mouth pieces, this guy helped rebuilt my faith like never before. and not by any solo conversations but just what he did..his khutba during ramadan were differences and similarities between abrahamic faiths, it was so popular that many non muslims would come to learn, this was right after 9/11..his other khutbas were about gender equality in how you raise your kids or how you and your wife deal with life.
punchingmonk, sadly I have come across more of these ppl that I dont like than the ones that I like, but when you find some of these really learned, gentle, scholars..it is just excellent.
How morbid.
My family know me well enough to know what I would want to be done. All my shoes will be buried with me. :D
thinking of afterlife is not really morbid in my view thinking that you do have an expiry date makes you think about what you are doing today.
I know coming from me it may seem strange, being the big bad liberal "mod" muslim and what nots, but thats what I think.
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**PM and Spock can we please stick to the topic! 
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Unfortunately people do fight after one's death because everyone is so emotionally distraught. Having a living will and testament can put an end to potential family feuds.
True AE! I can give you an example, though it doesn't relate to human beings. I had to leave my dog back home when I took off for college, and hes been with my parents since then. He was 12 and all of a sudden he got this tumour and was in pain. They did everything to save him, even had a surgery but in the end, it was a painful decision of whether or not to put him to sleep, that "I" had to make, while sitting thousands of miles away. I couldnt see my buddy in pain so I made the call. The thought of whether I should have let my parents make the call to save some of that looming guilt I have in my head can be tough to deal with. I can only imagine how much more difficult this would be for human beings.
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