Totally Confused

Lifestyle Relationships
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so gays and lesbians r wrong if they claim to be in love ?

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To Confucius :

I m not saying a priest having feelings for kids is love, and i dont approve gay love either… But they can claim they r in love.

Love isnt the simplist thing to define dear, yet every one has his/her own definition of love. Not everyone falls in love, correction: The people who have experienced true love in their life are very few(in my opnion)… however we all claim to be in love.

If someone claims to fall love with a person who isnt approved by ur religion or social circle could be love, infatuation, desperation or lust i dunt care.

So i would agree that yes a muslim can fall in love with a hindu. Even though religiously you rnt allowed to be together but lets say they do fall in love. I believe true love is strong enough that u can cross ur religious boundries but yet i havent seen one muslim girl / guy falling in love with a hindu and converting to hinduism.
If you can cross ur religious boundries and fall in love with a person your religion doesnt approve then whats the harm in going further ?

If you r in true love then religion shldnt matter. I would request thread opener to ask her sister if she would consider coverting to hinduism and i am 99.999… % sure she wont agree. Not willing to convert wud mean religion does me something to her.

If i have confused u already am sorry, let me repharse what i am trying to say… She is in love so she is crossing the boundries of religion by considering a guy who wanst approved by religion. Meaning he means more to her than her religion. Then she wont convert to his religion coz religion means more to her than him ? Very confusing and disturbing to meee…

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I meant preference of sexual orientation.. .. You have to choose if you like men or women first.. once you are in a relationship then you are n a situation where you fall in love..

I don't agree with PakiLarka that homeosexuals fall in love with gays.. they realise they are gay and then meet the person who they then fall in love with

Don't think if it matters if you are straight or gay..

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It looks like we agree, (BOLD) thanks for clarifying

Appreciate your explanation PL

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Firstly, I would point out to your sister that there is NO WAY, ISLAMICALLY that a marriage between the two of you would be accepted. If you did get "married" and had children, you would be committing Zina (sex out of marriage) and your children would be illigitimate.

If the hindu guy converted to (and properly practiced) Islam, then marriage maybe an option. ... BUT if your parents are as strict as you say there are, this is another battle in itself as he is not of your "sect"...
Also, what if his parents don't accept your sister as she is Muslim nor his conversion for Islam, he too will be between a rock and a hard place..

Your sister needs to wake up and smell the coffee. This cannot and will not lead to anything and she is wasting her time. She needs to end sooner rather than later.

She REALLY needs to bite the bullet and finish with him. Easier said than done I know and the heartache to follow is not something she will enjoy, but the longer she leaves it, the harder it will become.

As for your predicament OP, I would keep shtum! Don't complicate things for your sister as it will add further pressure. No good can come of this secret becoming known to others so I would stay quiet...

If your Mum asks re: your sister, just say she is being picky as this is the man she will spend all her life with? You want her to pick the right one, right?.. (bit of a guilt trip but needs must)..

Hope that helps

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Barfi wins the case... and thats not becoz i like barfi :p

The Hi/Bye Thread
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tell ur parents, cause at the end of the day they proberly gave her too much freedom that lead her to this mess, so they should deal with it!!