Ok so i have an elder sister whos 24 shes a pretty & well educated girl..now when she was in university with me she started dating a guy who was a hindu.Besides his religious background i dint like the guy too cuz he had much history of various gurls attached to him.The graduated 2yrs back n he had to go back to his country butthey have till date continued their relationship on phone & net.My family is insisting my sister to find aguy n get enagged.Here id like to take a lil time to tell sumthing abt my family,my parents qualify as moderately broad minded parents but they are strict when it comes to marriage.We are muslims but belong to a sect n my parents r strict about marrying a guy from the sect & if they find out my sisters dating a hindu they will flip & faint…literally!
Now my mom keeps asking me if my sisters involved sumwhere cuz she has her doubts but i have always denyed although i dunt support my sister 0.000001% for this at all! but telling my mom is just to dangerous as i dunt want all hell to break lose.My mum is trying to show shes understanding n wants to get it out of my mouth but shes not understanding at all regarding this matter.
Meanwhile there is a line up of guys for her n she keeps rejecting taking out minor faults n reasures my mom tht she is seriously looking its just shes not finding her kina guy…I spoke to her n he told me the same thing tht she is looking n she does know tht she has to break it offwid the hindu guy eventually its just hard fr her.
Now u all know the whole scenerio…Please Advice the next time my mom asks me wat do i do???i feel guilty lying to her all the time…im also scared tht shes just gona pass her age of getting gud praposals…my parents actually really worry abt her n i duno wat my next step shld be i just knw sumthing has to be done now..
***CuteGurl anyways , I think what you need to do is sit down with your sister and ask her exactly how she sees all this materializing . I'm sure she is aware of the obstacles and must have thought about where this is going , she is 24 !
As regards telling your mom well eventually they will find out so your just delaying the inevitable.........still I wouldn't tell your mom just yet rather I'd reason with your sister and try to make her see things from your perspective !
sheyn im a very oppiniated person on several occasions hav hv spoken to her shejust shuts down or tells me she knws...n i know she does its just she cant help herself feeling wat she feels fr tht guy.Im confused :(
i think either u r your sister should tell ur folks - coz it will only get worse if u dont, if ur folks really love ther daughter they will hopefully comprimise and agree for a her to marry the hindu guy i know some families in the same situation - girls family werent too happy but for the sake of ther daughter happiness they went along.
I am absolutely appalled at the fact that you pigs are even allowed to call your selves men. Burying alive and locking away???? This is why Muslims are in the worst possible situation; we are we are seen as cruel and heartless because of people like you.
I would like to make it clear that girls and women are the torch bearers of the following generations it is in their hands that the fate of Islam and the world lies I would like to see how humanity can survive without us.
But you cannot see this because you are blind the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) has spoken so highly and kindly of women giving them respect and dignity it is almost shocking to think that guys like you are from the same Ummat.
Finally I would like to pray that you never have daughters and are neglected of the blessings of daughters as you are not worthy enough.
^ Oh come on it was sarcasm im actually rebelling against this holding of women by expressing pagan views! Do you really think i would support such a cruel practice?
*I personally would not put it past any man to be a very cruel individual time and circumstance can make the best of man into a monster. I can only take your word, that you are not like that. *
^of course not! That was really cruel times and women deserve a lot of freedom and Islam grants them that but the thing is people never study the correct Islam they follow conjunctures of mullas and opinions of hadiths instead of following the Quran!
Basically the first thing that comes to mind is... you should blackmail her and take all her pocket monies! DO IT!
secondly, slap some sense into your sister before she pops indian babies and makes you badnaaaam!
On a serious note though, I would tell her to stop her nonsense and buckle up before your parents give up trying and she ends up with an ugly panzy boy!
I hope this resolves your family matters inshallah :) :) :) :)
Hun until your sister decides to grow up, nothing can be done!! You can do your best, but you cant force a girl to do anything, since she is 24.
Just do your part of talking to her and make her understand that, if she was planning on converting the guy its would be worth it for the rest of her life, but since she is just using him until she is strong enough to break it off its just gonna hurt her in the long run!
Remind her that you should only be in a relationship before marriage if there is marriage in the future!!!
P.s Keep in mind she's still young, and its not like shes 35 and can't find a man.
