Re: Torn between the bhabis..
That sounds rather silly to me. Since when does being older or younger have anything to do with making efforts to know someone? Respect should be given mutually. The devrani seems to get along FINE with everyone except Jethani and I, and you think it’s because we have not made efforts to get to know her? It’s not my jethani’s responsibility or mine to make any efforts towards her. Noone is looking to be best friends, even my jethani and I are not best friends with each other but being a part of the same family, we like and respect each other. By the way, to make it clear, both my jethani and I have been nothing but cordial towards the devrani. When we see her, we chat with her, we compliment her, try to get to know her but when you start feeling the other person has this cold vibe towards you despite of how nicely you treat them, it becomes a huge turn off. And what I find more weird than anything is that she is beyond sugary sweet towards everyone in the family except for us two and we have done absolutely nothing to offend her. People who are aware of the situation and have noticed how she acts think it’s because of insecurity and jealousy that she may be feeling. If you’re new in a family and feel intimated or whatever by the other bahus who have been around longer, that’s understandable but to act immature is just weird.
Speaking of your situation, I would suggest you make an effort to get to know YOUR jethani instead of waiting for her to come to you. Just like how you think it’s her responsibility somehow to take the initiative, being the youngest, you also need to show respect to her since she is older (im assuming in age too besides in relation). You are the new entrant, you are the one who needs to win hearts, not her.