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The guy wasn’t creepy - she was approached in a decent manner, that shows he tried not to offend her. She could’ve gave the # as long as her first impression of him was positive and then upon further communication decide if he’s a jerk or not. Also, I’m pretty sure they had some type of conversation before the guy asked? If this is happening in North America/Europe, then it’s understandable and happens all the time. If they are at an event it’s not like the guy will have hours to stay and talk to her. Perhaps he thought she was interesting/pretty/different and figured he wanted to GET TO KNOW her. Isn’t that what OP wants? I don’t mean to bash the girl and I understand she doesn’t want to be portrayed in a certain way but if you don’t at least give SOME guys a chance then might as well just stick to meeting someone through a rishta. It’s up to you to get to know and learn more about them, instead of being* judgemental* and scrutinize every little thing.

When I first met the love of my life, I thought he was a jerk but I turned out to be so very wrong - people can surprise you. Now that I think about it, not giving him a chance would’ve been the biggest mistake of my life. So the point of this post is that to find THE ONE, you have to take a leap of faith. :slight_smile:

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Fair enough he could’ve turned out to be a jerk but what ‘if’ he was husband material and ‘the one’ for her. Obviously he is a stranger but she would’ve got to know him better and then things could’ve proceeded further like on to marriage and stuff, besides that isn’t everyone a stranger until you get to know them?
I don’t understand why do you keep saying ‘what if he is a total jerk?’ so what? isn’t it the same as arranged marriage and when you have a potential rishta you get to know him and what if he turns out to be a jerk? its not like you have committed a crime by getting to know each other.

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because in an arranged rishta, you’re allowed to blame someone else if the person turns out to be a jerk.

Yet another way our people love to play into the “victim” mentality…God forbid you make a mistake and own up to it.

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Wow.

so many paranoid parrots here.

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Asking for name from pakistani females is enough of a risk. That guy must be insane that he asked for phone number.