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Having met a guy who had a very, very colourful past - I think what bothered me the most was not so much the guy’s past. I’ll be honest, I didn’t like the fact that he couldn’t remember the number of women he had banged - that made me think that women were objects for him.

No, what bothered me more was that he had a similar attititude of: while I can be a former sinner and repent to God and you shouldn’t hold my past against me, you (meaning me or any girl he married), should be lily white. He HATED the idea of my or any other girl having a past. It’s this hypocrisy that I find untenable.

The fact that the “relationship” is over might sting a bit now, but honestly you’re better off without him. Him changing his ways isn’t enough by itself, great that he’s changed his ways. But he hasn’t necessarily changed his mindset - this guy seems to lack equal consideration of women. You wouldn’t be happy with someone like that.