Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly

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Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly

@Lucid

I totally agree. It’s not fair to lambaste someone on the basis of spelling and grammatical mistakes. Yes, her punctuation is far from perfect, and she is not as articulate as many of GS members, but the standard is still much higher than most college graduates in Pakistan (In fact many MBAs, doctors, engineers and lawyers** can’t write a complete sentence in English without making a couple of mistakes**. The answer is no, if one wants to ask whether I am exaggerating).

She came here to ask for suggestions about a real problem in her life. A problem that, I dare say, most of the commentators couldn’t comprehend properly because of class and cultural differences. It is a very big issue in large parts of middle and lower middle class of Pakistan if husband is not the primary bread winner for the family, and the society has just recently started to accept career women, still with some suspicion and grudge. To say that it is up to the couple to decide roles, as it is no one else’s business, is easier said than done. Here it is everyone’s business. People ridicule, taunt and comment mercilessly, equally behind and in front of you, and you just can’t shut them up.

And when she says her husband tries to be romantic all the time, she actually means something else but doesn’t have the right words to elaborate. In fact I don’t have the right words either. But reading her last post gives an idea what she actually meant by romance.

What she is going through is actually a very sad and sympathetic situation, to say the least. If we can’t comfy her or give some appropriate suggestion, we at least should avoid hurting and confusing her any further.

yeah i don’t think anyone is talking about making a “couple of mistakes” in fact, all her sentences are probably filled with grammatical errors. i don’t think it’s unfair for any of us to ask the OP to make it easier for us to read by adding in a few more punctuations and fully spelling some words. she is on a forum to ask for some help, she should try a little harder to help us understand atleast what she is typing, unless the OP is a 15 year old.

second, i was following the thread but didn’t get a chance to write a proper reply and bar a few people.. most of them have given her advice on her real problem in her life. the spelling errors were a side note, whilst they focussed on the real issue at hand. nobody is undermining her issue but the fact of the matter is, that OP seems to have a HUGE chip on her shoulder and she needs to see things from a different perspective, which is why she is on this forum. if she wanted a yes-man type answer she would stick to her cultural friends and leave his sorry arse for being the “chipkoo” type because she woudn’t want to hear the society’s ridiculing taunts. he is a bit of an arse for not getting a job and manning up, but for her to be horrid about the fact he stays at home and cooks and cleans and is an overall nice husband most of the time isn’t fair either. yeah i think most of us got the idea that she’s referring to her husband wanting sex all the time, he is a jerk for saying he could get it anywhere.

if she is so hell bent on what people think of her and her family dynamics then maybe she should give a little more respect to her husband and sweeten him up before she discusses this with him in a polite manner. her attitude within the marriage hasn’t been right from the get go, nor his. i agree, it is a sad and sympathetic situation.. no more than a woman who doesn’t get along with her mother, a woman whose mil elbows her whilst pregnant or any other real issue we come across in life1. we don’t all have to be huggy and smiley when giving serious advice for us to be sympathetic toward a person.