Re: Too much attention of hubby piss me off badly
I totally agree. It’s not fair to lambaste someone on the basis of spelling and grammatical mistakes. Yes, her punctuation is far from perfect, and she is not as articulate as many of GS members, but the standard is still much higher than most college graduates in Pakistan (In fact many MBAs, doctors, engineers and lawyers can’t write a complete sentence in English without making a couple of mistakes. The answer is no, if one wants to ask whether I am exaggerating).
She came here to ask for suggestions about a real problem in her life. A problem that, I dare say, most of the commentators couldn’t comprehend properly because of class and cultural differences. It is a very big issue in large parts of middle and lower middle class of Pakistan if husband is not the primary bread winner for the family, and the society has just recently started to accept career women, still with some suspicion and grudge. To say that it is up to the couple to decide roles, as it is no one else’s business, is easier said than done. Here it is everyone’s business. People ridicule, taunt and comment mercilessly, equally behind and in front of you, and you just can’t shut them up.
And when she says her husband tries to be romantic all the time, she actually means something else but doesn’t have the right words to elaborate. In fact I don’t have the right words either. But reading her last post gives an idea what she actually meant by romance.
What she is going through is actually a very sad and sympathetic situation, to say the least. If we can’t comfy her or give some appropriate suggestion, we at least should avoid hurting and confusing her any further.
I totally agree with you that the poster is very disturbed and in anguish due to her situation and if people cannot empathise with her situation and offer her the help and the support that she needs then at least they should avoid making the situation worse for her and hurt her feelings by making insensitive, thoughtless remarks and putting her down.