So for the more experienced mommies…I have 2 issues I need to discuss:
I have a 16 month old toddler…(yes, I am counting in months until he’s 2).
A)
He is a tantrum throwing machine. Every.Single.Thing has him collapsing on the floor, throwing his head back, screaming, sometimes jumping/stomping in place, crying, etc.
Redirecting him hasn’t worked…he doesn’t forget what he was throwing a fit over.
What The Fudge? Its obnoxious!
I am not a fan of hitting/swatting…I don’t have any issues with anyone else doing it but I don’t want to.
What kind of disciplinary tactics can one use for a not-yet-16 month old toddler?
B)
Is milk and the odd bite or two enough to sustain him? Because that’s all he insists on surviving on. He eats like a bird or like we’re in the middle of a recession. 2 bites is all we make it to and then the food is on the floor.
I am pretty stressed about this because I don’t see how a human being can thrive on a liquid diet. Um I can’t. How can he? He’s such a weirdo…how can you not like buttered french toast, scrambled eggs with cream, parathay, mac and cheese, home made egg mcmuffins, etc?
Cut out the milk. He doesnt need it as much as he needs solids. A cup in the a.m and at night... othereise cheese and yoghurt. He wont like the idea... but he will accept after a few days. He is probably fillin the hunger with milk
I'm going through similar things with my toddler so you're not alone.
Everyone says he seems to have started his terrible two's already. He needs to throw a tantrum over pretty much anything and they need to be really dramatic. This morning he ran off, pulled a cloth off the coffee table and threw it on the floor (he has to throw something) followed by kneeling down and purposefully banging his head on the floor and then rolled around crying. I'd love to know how to avoid these and stop him from using tantrums to get what he wants but for now I just ignore them. I ignore what he's doing but I don't ignore him. Depending on what he's having a fit over, I'll tell him he'll get what he wants but only if he stops. I'm hoping it's just a phase.
Mine did the same with eating over a 3-4 month period. It's was on/off with food and there were some days where he was mostly surviving on milk. It really frustrated me because he was such a good eater before that. I had different advice that I should just let him drink milk if he's really not eating. I didn't let up from my end and would still make him things and offer him lots of different things every day in the hope that he would eat something. Sometimes he would, sometimes he wouldn't. Now I think it probably had a lot to do with teething as he had a lot of his difficult teeth coming through over that period. Since about two weeks ago (17 months), he's started eating normally (fingers crossed it stays this way). He doesn't drink much milk during the day and it's gone down by almost a half during the night. He also seems to prefer his dinner type food at about 11am and eats much more at this time.
We have gone through two toddlerhoods and they both were not high on eating. Surprisingly, we have Mashallah two heathy, young adults in our daughters. It seems that kids will eat how little they want and still will grow up healthy. I have no idea how.
Point is, don't sweat it too much. He is not going to be sixteen years old and still drinking milk, so don't be stressed out if he is 16 months and his main meal is still milk
I'm going through similar things with my toddler so you're not alone.
Everyone says he seems to have started his terrible two's already. He needs to throw a tantrum over pretty much anything and they need to be really dramatic. This morning he ran off, pulled a cloth off the coffee table and threw it on the floor (he has to throw something) followed by kneeling down and purposefully banging his head on the floor and then rolled around crying. I'd love to know how to avoid these and stop him from using tantrums to get what he wants but for now I just ignore them. I ignore what he's doing but I don't ignore him. Depending on what he's having a fit over, I'll tell him he'll get what he wants but only if he stops. I'm hoping it's just a phase.
Mine did the same with eating over a 3-4 month period. It's was on/off with food and there were some days where he was mostly surviving on milk. It really frustrated me because he was such a good eater before that. I had different advice that I should just let him drink milk if he's really not eating. I didn't let up from my end and would still make him things and offer him lots of different things every day in the hope that he would eat something. Sometimes he would, sometimes he wouldn't. Now I think it probably had a lot to do with teething as he had a lot of his difficult teeth coming through over that period. Since about two weeks ago (17 months), he's started eating normally (fingers crossed it stays this way). He doesn't drink much milk during the day and it's gone down by almost a half during the night. He also seems to prefer his dinner type food at about 11am and eats much more at this time.
I am ignoring it as well right now but seriously its so aggravating. We were at the playground and he wanted someone's ball...he went and got it. The other kid was upset (rightly so) and I gave him his ball back. Deen had a fit...complete with stomping and jumping and yelling in babble at the other child. So I took him home because he would not relax and was trying to take the poor child's ball. That's just one example. And yes, everything has to be on the floor along with the tablecloths...I actually keep mine folded away now because there's no point keeping it out since he can reach it and pull it down.
Eating is something we've been struggling with forever. He ate so well when he started eating...then it all went out the window.
We have gone through two toddlerhoods and they both were not high on eating. Surprisingly, we have Mashallah two heathy, young adults in our daughters. It seems that kids will eat how little they want and still will grow up healthy. I have no idea how.
Point is, don't sweat it too much. He is not going to be sixteen years old and still drinking milk, so don't be stressed out if he is 16 months and his main meal is still milk
That's comforting. It really is.
I just want to know he's not malnourished. It seems proper food and eating is such a huge part of their lives...are they getting enough nutrients? But how can I even begin to nourish him if we don't eat?
I try very hard to just let him be and feed him when and how I can...but its so hard to watch him ignore food all day long and only want his milk.
Reha, if his skin is glowing, his energy level is high for a kid of his age, and his general health is good, then he is not malnourished. But also discuss with his pediatrician to make sure.
I just want to know he's not malnourished. It seems proper food and eating is such a huge part of their lives...are they getting enough nutrients? But how can I even begin to nourish him if we don't eat?
I try very hard to just let him be and feed him when and how I can...but its so hard to watch him ignore food all day long and only want his milk.
I used to be very relaxed about food and my daughter was and is a complete dudu (milk) monster. A routine blood test found her to be severely anemic and the main reason was lack of proper diet. At 16 months he doesn't need that much milk. Try to cut it right down. Milk suppresses their appetite and drinking over 20 ounces at this age is a risk factor for iron deficiency.
With my daughter it is really hard and she went days without eating when I cut out her milk but slowly she is building an appetite.
His general health is good. We have a checkup tomorrow and I will be discussing this again with his pediatrician. He is very active and my worry is…is he getting enough calories to keep up with this craziness?
I’d love to but he has a temper and I don’t want to teach him that hitting is a way to get your point across.
I think I am going to try to cut it down now…he is filling up on milk and just isn’t hungry enough for any food.
So for the more experienced mommies...I have 2 issues I need to discuss:
I have a 16 month old toddler...(yes, I am counting in months until he's 2).
A)
He is a tantrum throwing machine. Every.Single.Thing has him collapsing on the floor, throwing his head back, screaming, sometimes jumping/stomping in place, crying, etc.
Redirecting him hasn't worked...he doesn't forget what he was throwing a fit over.
What The Fudge? Its obnoxious!
I am not a fan of hitting/swatting...I don't have any issues with anyone else doing it but I don't want to.
What kind of disciplinary tactics can one use for a not-yet-16 month old toddler?
B)
Is milk and the odd bite or two enough to sustain him? Because that's all he insists on surviving on. He eats like a bird or like we're in the middle of a recession. 2 bites is all we make it to and then the food is on the floor.
I am pretty stressed about this because I don't see how a human being can thrive on a liquid diet. Um I can't. How can he? He's such a weirdo...how can you not like buttered french toast, scrambled eggs with cream, parathay, mac and cheese, home made egg mcmuffins, etc?
Productive advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
It is normal.
Throwing stuff is not big deal. Stomping and jumping is normal behavior. Redirection does not work as toddler grow, their attention period increase and they remember subject. You can not force your kid to eat. You can recite Quls and dum on him.
odd bite.... you need to show your pain so he could learn that he is not doing right thing.
Reha I would reduce the milk intake. One of my cousin's daughter had routine checkups and everything but was on a similar diet like your son. To keep the story short, she was very anemic and had to be hospitalized, had two bags of blood (the most they could give her at her age of 2). I am not a doctor, but here is my understanding of it...the fat in cow milk doesn't allow good iron absorption and cause's the body to become anemic. Also, if they aren't eating anything else there isn't much iron going into the system to start with.
you kid is too full after the milk to eat anything else. Try taking away the milk and giving him a full meal.
I have no advise for the tantrums...they will go away eventually and something worse will start :{
Reha I would reduce the milk intake. One of my cousin's daughter had routine checkups and everything but was on a similar diet like your son. To keep the story short, she was very anemic and had to be hospitalized, had two bags of blood (the most they could give her at her age of 2). I am not a doctor, but here is my understanding of it...the fat in cow milk doesn't allow good iron absorption and cause's the body to become anemic. Also, if they aren't eating anything else there isn't much iron going into the system to start with.
you kid is too full after the milk to eat anything else. Try taking away the milk and giving him a full meal.
I have no advise for the tantrums...they will go away eventually and something worse will start :{
I think you're right...we have a ped appt tomorrow evening and I am going to discuss this with his doc.
So his routine during the week:
Morning bottle
Breakfast - usually eggs and potatoes
2 hours later - bottle + nap
He naps for 2 hours
On wakeup, he has lunch...usually pasta of some sort
2 hours later he has a bottle
Dinner is whatever we are eating for the day...usually no more than a few bites
It helped me a lot to make a food diary for my daughter. What she ate and how Mich for just two days. I had other parents telling me to relax about food as their kids didn't eat much either but I would see their kids munching here and there. With my daughter she actually didn't eat anything. I have had to be quite firm with the milk. It is amazing how stubborn they are at this age. She was on a hunger strike for a while and I did relent here and there but she has started eating more now.
She is on an iron supplement and her iron stores are still low. :(
It helped me a lot to make a food diary for my daughter. What she ate and how Mich for just two days. I had other parents telling me to relax about food as their kids didn't eat much either but I would see their kids munching here and there. With my daughter she actually didn't eat anything. I have had to be quite firm with the milk. It is amazing how stubborn they are at this age. She was on a hunger strike for a while and I did relent here and there but she has started eating more now.
She is on an iron supplement and her iron stores are still low. :(
Appointment is tonight...hope all is well...will update when I get home.
My little one loves soup and haleem, he doesn't eat all the stuff you have mentioned. Both my boys love raw veggies. So I guess think outside the box. They don't like the food I like.
Appointment is tonight...hope all is well...will update when I get home.
I'm sure it will be inshAllah. From his routine you posted, he is eating and more than once in a day, it's just the dinner that seems to be the main issue. I think because that's when we have our main meal and if the kid isn't eating much with us it feels like they have missed out on their substantial meal of the day. I think I mentioned above how my guy eats more in the morning so I started giving him his main meal then. When I asked my cousin about her daughter (a few years older), she did exactly the same thing between 1-2 yrs.
Perhaps cut out the morning bottle and give him a proper meal for breakfast (although, eggs and potatoes is pretty good in itself)? And perhaps try replacing the afternoon bottle with healthy snacks?
Last night I bought groceries to make him more healthy stuff…broccoli and cheese bites, he seems to like pasta sauce so maybe I’ll hide veggies in there, chicken nuggets, mini pizza bites, etc.
I never thought I’d be making him special meals…but I am.
but he has a temper and I don’t want to teach him that hitting is a way to get your point across.