Toddler Tantrums

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Reha I hide veggies into almost everything he eats. I make keema with 4-5 different types of veggies (what ever is available.) Beef patties for buggers have mushroom, carrots, onions, bell peppers etc. i make daal once a week.

Hope all went well last night.

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Updates:

We went to see our pediatrician and according to him its definitely time wean off the bottle. Ped wants to me to slowly get him down to 20 ounces a day.

He also had 3 shots yesterday.

Shockingly (Alhumdulillahx1000000) he is not anemic. He's just really skinny. I spoke to his doc in detail about his eating habits and his response was the same as what you guys posted: that Deen is filling up on milk and avoiding food because he's full.

So my homework for the time being is to get him off the bottle and get him hungry enough to eat. I am pretty sure this will be a pretty big battle as he's addicted to the bottle. He won't sleep without it...he follows me around when he's hungry until he gets it....throws his food on the floor until he gets it......please keep us in your duas. I might just lose my mind.

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That's good news Alhumdulillah. I'm sure you guys can do it. That's exactly how much my little one now drinks (20oz / day) and the day time milk drinking is decreasing day by day (it's more for comfort than hunger). Let him eat whatever he likes, even if it's not varied enough for you and keep supplementing with new things or things he might have refused before. You never know when he may suddenly like something. Also I experienced the same as Lusi, you may have to make things that you wouldn't necessarily eat. My LO is way more into desi food and flavours than I am. I like to make something different everyday (in terms of flavours) but if for example I'm making a chicken pie, I have to do some chicken seperartely for him with some zing. I also don't make rice for us more than once a week but he can't seem to get enough of it and parathas too.

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Time to have an other toddler.
So the toddler one feel grown up when he sees toddler two.

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Omg yes! He does like parathay with cream cheese…weird child. I tried hash browns last night with some qeema I made and that worked better than normal. We got through one medium sized hash brown…woo hoo!

Thanks guys :wub:

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You just might see me running down the street pulling my hair out if I add another one to the mix right now :hehe:

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Hi Reha,

My son and daughter both were/are bad eaters and had few bottles every night. i have stopped giving bottle to my son since january. Now i give him partha every night with salan and loves it. If he eates anything else other than home made roti or partha he will wake up and cry and he is now hooked on to sanitarium up and go.

so basically if no home made roti/partha, he will keep drinking up and go.

its hard to take kids off bottle. my son still misses his bottle and cries for it after nearly 5 months.

goodluck

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I’m not an experienced parent but I was looking at this book on Amazon and the description under Toddler reminded me of your post. It’s called Fearless Feeding: How to raise healthy eaters from high chair to high school.

Fearless Feeding: How to Raise Healthy Eaters from High Chair to High School: Jill Castle, Maryann Jacobsen: 9781118308592: Amazon.com: Books

Under top feeding mistakes parents make for toddlers, it mentions too many snacks/milk. It says to limit milk to 2 cups a day. Maybe you can give him milk when he takes his afternoon nap and before bedtime? You can slowly reduce the amount of milk so the transition is not too tough for him.
I’ve quoted the description from the book below:

Toddler

Filling Little Bellies: As babies turn into toddlers things change quickly – language blooms, growth slows and children become more susceptible to environmental cues around food. Parents often make the mistake of giving into requests for juice, milk and snack foods, which fill up little bellies (the size of a fist) so they don’t eat well at mealtime. To avoid this mistake, feed on a structure at a designated place (3 meals and 2 -3 snacks) every 2-3 hours. Keep milk to about 2 cups and juice to only 4-6 ounces per day, with meals. Keep water the drink of choice between meals.
Get Off Track with Picky Eating: At toddlerhood, children become skeptical of new food and previously accepted items (especially veggies). Most parents don’t understand picky eating is a normal part of development and may begin to bribe children with dessert, insist they eat a certain amount, or cater and only provide foods they know their child will eat. All of these things make picky eating worse and negatively affect self-regulation. We recommend the Ellyn Satter Division of Responsibility where parents decide the what, when and where of feeding and children decide the whether and how much of eating. It melts away the battles, keeps eating enjoyable for all, and makes children feel more confident with eating.

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This probably work in most cases … :hehe:

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Thanks nida for thinking of me!!!

I like what this says…right now I am working on limiting his milk to about 2-3 times a day. Before he was asking for his bottle every 2-3 hours. I am also trying to switch to sippy cups…another nightmare. Wish me luck.

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Hi Reha. My toddler is just a few months older than yours, so I completely empathize.

I don't have much insight on tantrums, as we basically just take each one as it comes.

Re. food - I'm one of the really lucky ones - my kiddo eats almost anything. What might have worked is that I had to involve her in cooking from the very beginning (hubby travels all week, so it's just her and me, and food, alas, needs to be made). I let her clean veggies with me, watch as I chopped them, and mixed various ingredients together (I have gotten very proficient at cooking with one hand lol). I talked her through the various stages (look, the water is boiling, we're cracking open the egg, let's stir the dal etc) . As a result she was very interested in the outcome and eager to get a taste.That may be something you can try. Also, she eats much better when we all have dinner together. She is very proud to have a plate of her own, and demands everything that's in my plate.

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^I bought my guy the Ikea Duktig stainless steel cookware set so that he can cook with me.

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That’s so cool -I’ll check it out next time I’m in Ikea! My daughter got toy cookware from India as a gift from her aunt. She loves pretend-cooking for us in it :wub:

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My son was a picky eater from babyhood. He is still skinny but the picky eater thing has decreased quite a bit. It will get better with time, IA. I felt just like @Reha . Lol!

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I haven't read what others have said but when my kid did that the 3td n 4th time ie lay on the floor n scream, i let him. I left him on the floor and went to brush my hair in the same room. After he saw mommy wadnt giving him attention there never came a 5th time.

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I am really not sure where it came from or if he is even my kid because frankly speaking…there has rarely been a time when I have not liked food.

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My older one pretty much ate everything as a young toddler, however now he doesn't like cooked veggies. All he wants to eat is chicken salan (and there should be no traces of onions and tomatoes in the salan)with naan. He will eat a plate full of raw veggies and fruits but the moment you cook them, he will walk away from food.
My younger one loves soup, he can have soup meals everyday. He loves haleem as well.

Figure out what food he enjoys, start with that and slowly add more variety.

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MA! Count your blessings. My kids still don't like salan (though now they will eat it after years of trying). They won't eat the cooked veggies (and frankly, I don't either esp, if these are cooked separately in a desi way). As for haleem, they don't touch it and I started eating it after marriage myself. My daughter was your older one, had a wider palate when younger but pickier now.

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So a surprising thing happened this weekend:

My husband has this weird concoction he likes and requests at least twice a week…daal with fish in it. I don’t understand it but I make it.

Deen actually had a bowl of it. This child has never had a bowl of anything in his entire life…he had a bowl of daal soup with fish in it.

Blechhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh :frowning:

I think I am going to try offering him different things from now and see what he enjoys…because obviously we do not share the same taste in food. :hehe:

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lol,
i am telling you find what he likes and add/hide veggies in it :)