to work or not to work

[queen_24]

Re: to work or not to work

@gudiaali

Ok so i need your opinions on on this.
A very close cousin of mine is married for 7 years into a very educated and well off family.
she herself belongs to the same kind of family and has done her MBA Finance from a very prestigious university in Karachi, Pakistan.
all her schooling have been great.
her husband also highly qualified and posted at a hi-fi job in multinational organization.
my cousin used to work in a corporate sector after her studies got completed and before her marriage just to pass her time and to get a feel of the corporate world. then she left work before her wedding as she never was a career minded girl nor have any passion to work as such.

now the problem is that in her in-laws particularly in her immediate in-laws every women is working after marriage as well. she has 1 married “Nand” with kids who work as marketing manager in a multinational. her 1 “jhetani” is teaching at a private university and 1 dewrani is also working full time at an office. her mom-in law doesn’t work though. the problem is that since everyone in their family works they all particularly her husband expects her to work as well. from the initial years of her marriage they keep on telling her that why she has left her job in a subtle manner. then she got kids, one is 6 years and another is 4 years so things remained under control till the second kid turned 3 and started school. now that both kids are in school her husband has again started for last 1 year that why she doesn’t take up a job. from time to time he taunts her and say things like she does nothing and just sit at home and have a fun. that she should work as its no use of her if she just sit like that at home even when she is highly educated. they all live in separate portions of the same house and whenever her husband watch his bhabhis leave for work he taunts her that look how women do work and not just sit around at home.
they have maids at home who do the household chores and my cousin doesn’t have much household chores to do but she takes care a very good care of her kids and of her home. also they are a member of social club and she is also very active socially. she doesn’t want to work however, and her reason for not to work is just simple that she doesn’t like it for herself. she is of the opinion that even if she doesn’t have much chores to do at home and is highly qualified even then she has a right to say no to work and it should be her freedom to chose for herself whether she wants to take up a job or not and that no one should taunt her or push her to work. she says if there is a financial reason then i will definately work but not just to kill the time or to get the approval of other people when i don’t want to do it by my heart. things are getting a bit tensed between her and her husband just because of this. also note that they do not need women to work for economic reasons infact no man in their family take a cent from their wives salaries neither do they let their wives spend a cent from thier salaries. all ladies in her family just keeps in their own bank accounts so her in-laws or husband are not greedy at all but just says she must work because all others are working these days.

now i want to ask you is it necessary for a wive that she must keep herself engaged in some kind of work? either household chores or a job? is it not okay if she takes care of her husband, her home, her kids genuinely? is it necessary that if you work outside your work or if you do household chores at home only then you will be considered usefu land worthy?
In Islam too a women is not bound to do to household chores and can keep maids if possible and neither is she bound to take up a job, so do you think should let in to her husband wish and take up a job killing her heart or she should stand up for her freedom?

She can start a business of her interest from her home too.. like beautician or hair stylist or things like that!!