Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife
This right of men is in the Quran and given by Allah himself. There are many things that women have over men and men over women. This is one of those things that men have over women. Most women might not like this nor be willing to share a husband. This is all good but never question Allah. It is the way it is and there is nothing anyone can do about it. This exists because of orphans and widows so they can get easily married. It exists for wars as more men die than women so no woman can be left behind. It exists because there are more women in this world than men so they all can get married. It exists because sometimes one cannot have children and one needs a second wife but does not want to divorce the first as it is not her fault. As much it seems to be good for the men it is for the good of women too.
Personally I would only want one wife. Most men are this way. However there are some who choose to have more than one. There are some women that are OK with it. It is hard finding them but they are out there. I would recommend that it is not done without all wives’ agreeing to it. Everything from the money spent to the time should be the same. One should truly try their level best to be equal to them for we will all be answerable to Allah. I live in a state in the U.S. where you can only have one wife but as many girlfriends as you want. My local Imam has three wives and is looking for the fourth. He was born and raised in the U.S. All of his wives are from here. He never did the court marriage just the Islamic one as in my state if you get a divorce the wife takes half of everything. He did not want anything of them to have this over each other. I have a uncle who had two best friends in Pakistan who are poor and got married to each of their daughters. He married the first and after three years gave a court divorce and then married the second so they can both be here.
Yeah that all sounds nice but most men don’t marry widows ,they marry to get pleasure in reality, many of them cheat before marrying the second time round and many treat their wives badly and unjustly.
Anyways why don’t women start making conditions in their marriage contracts that say the husband can’t marry another woman?