To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

[muqawwee123]

Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

@Reha

I think of them as very patient women…I don’t have that kind of patience.

No, its not a generalization at all. Its true for most of the situations and 100% true for all of the situations I’ve seen first hand.

Man is not perfect…he was born imperfect. It takes a lot to be a good husband to two different women and their children. The idea of “being just and fair” to both sounds nice when spoken and written but its a lot harder to do in real life.

I don’t think its fair to expect a woman to just be okay a second woman in her husband’s life. She is a human being with feelings, emotions, preferences, goals and ambitions of her own. She wasn’t born attached to a man. She is a separate person entitled to her choices in life. Making those choices doesn’t make her a bad person.

I didn’t say that a woman who opt for khula just because of her husband married another lady is bad by any chance, but I don’t agree to the point that first wife faces abusing situation after her husband marries to another woman in 100% cases. The situation varies from society to society, culture to culture. A husband may be abusive and mistreat the only wife and a person can be caring after getting marries to second lady.