To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

[Paheli00]

Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

@Muzna

for everyone that is asking why marriage is necessary to provide “help” to a widow…

the concept of “supporting” refers to providing all her needs (mental and physical).
by entering into nikah the man would commit to providing her with both. get it?
this is supposed to save her from sin.

But in this day and age…why not help her find a man who is not married? Don’t men know other men in the community? Co-workers/friends etc? Even men in their own family…younger brothers, cousins etc. When the intention is to truly help a widow to meet HER personal physical/mental needs…why not try to get rishtas for her from men who themselves are widows/divorcees/never married etc?

The men that want to take on the MAJOR lifelong responsibility of taking care of a 2nd wife + additional children b/c they just really want to help a widow in need…why not focus all that energy/time in spreading the message among their fellow Muslim brothers who currently do not have a wife that they should consider marrying these widows?

For the record, if a man wants to marry a 2nd, 3rd, 4th wife and his current wife/wives do not have any issues with it…then I see nothing wrong. I’m aware of the fact that there are women who would happily choose to be a polygamous marriage.

Also, I understand the actual religious teaching on this and how it’s meant to be practiced. My issue is how it’s actually practiced today. Like I said already…for some reason the 2nd, 3rd, 4th wife usually happens to be prettier, younger, unmarried woman. I don’t see Muslim men wanting to “help” flocking to widows who are 30+ (don’t women in their 40’s/50’s etc. have “needs” too?) and snatching them up as wife #2.