To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

[Le_Pakistan]

Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

@Mezhgan

I’m not romanticising any culture. I’m merely commenting on what I observed while living in the middle east and pointing out a difference between cultures. I realise that all cultures have both positive and negative aspects. Observing differences in other cultures and comparing/contrasting them with one’s own culture (although not my own in this case) doesn’t mean one thinks negatively of one’s own culture. Similarly, it is possible to think positively of one’s culture, while still recognizing (somewhat negative) aspects where there is room for improvment.

I don’t disagree with what you are saying. Neither do I deny that our culture has it’s flaws. I agree with the bolded part. And that is why if something is wrong, and we want to change it, then we will have to start by ourselves.

My reply was more directed to comments such as: ‘1. arab women put up with a lot less than us, 2. arabs are less bothered about divorce, 3. there is less of a stigma.’

Apart from the fact that point 2 and 3 are not true (conversations and intercation with arab women prove otherwise), point 1 is also flawed. They don’t put up with less. They just have other things to put up with. And that is why I mentioned the virginity-proof tradition.