Re: To those women who would want a divorce just because their husband takes another
No its not wrong at all.
Marrying four times is a right a man has in Islam. This right was given to him by Allah swt.
That same Allah swt gives me the choice to stay or leave if I wish.
There’s no ahadees that says a woman MUST accept. If she does, she is a great person. But if she doesn’t, she’s not less of a person.
Often times, men who wave the four wives flag are not married themselves and have no idea what it means to even balance ONE marriage - let alone four. Often times, they also forget that with power comes great responsibility. In addition, they also forget how naturally territorial females tend to be.
So sure…you can marry four times and never tell the others when doing so. But eventually, you will have to tell them they have competition. You will also have to provide separate living quarters. Divide your time. Divide your assets. Divide your energies (or whatever is left of them). Divide your attention to marital issues. Hear them out as they take out their frustrations on you.
Now, when men give examples of our beloved Prophet (SAW)…they think His example has given men the freedom to do as they please. This is a form of exploitation and - wrong. They tend to forget how wonderful of a human being He was and how loved He was by Allah swt. A man who could not crush an ant…could definitely instill enough love in His wives’ hearts where they willingly accepted another woman. They trusted Him, His judgment, His decisions because He was a beautiful person and treated them well. Every action was an act of pleasing Allah swt. Every move He made was an example for Muslims to follow. What woman can a woman say no to a man like that?
So men…instead of just focusing on ONE of his examples and trying to make it your power over a woman…apne aap ko is qaabil kyun nahin banatey ke apki bivi apse inkaar hi na kar paye? Do not exploit your faith and think EVEN FOR A SECOND that you’ve made yourselves comparable to our Propeht (SAW).
Do as you wish, marry who and how many times you want. But please…stop using our Prophet (SAW) as a way to get out of focusing on the teachings of Islam. Religion of peace, remember people? I don’t think the religion of peace will give a man the right to destroy his current marriage so he can chase skirts. I don’t think they say “maa ke pairon ke neechay jannat hoti hai” so a man can treat her as if she doesn’t exist anymore in the form of a wife.
The religion does not vary. But the followers do.
May Allah swt bless you.