Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife
Wouldn’t it be wiser for the Husband to show respect and honesty to his beloved 1st wife by asking for her blessing to marry a 2nd wife? Islam is a religion of peace and is full of justice especially for women, SubhanAllah.
A Muslim Husband marrying again without the blessings of his 1st wife will most probably cause immense tension and anger in the house. Why would a good Muslim Husband want that to happen in his own house? Anger is a very difficult emotion to manage so imagine what the 1st wife will have to forcefully be put through? A true Muslim Husband will remain faithful in all aspects of Islam.
“Imam Ali (AS) stated: ‘Women are entrusted to men, and as such are not owners of their fortunes and misfortunes. They are with you like a trust of Allah; so do not hurt them and do not make (the life) difficult for them ’.”[197]](Principles Of Marriage & Family Ethics | Al-Islam.org )
A Muslim Husband must live with his wife honorably, pay attention to her needs and respect her. If a Muslim Husband marries a 2nd wife without his 1st wife’s blessing - then it’s obvious this will cause hurt to the 1st wife and make life difficult for her. Therefore, it will be a nice act of kindness to gain her blessing, to be honest with her right from the start about how he feels and make her understand why he needs to marry again. (My Granddad did it successfully and his wives loved each other - yes he asked his 1st wife’s permission which she granted after 6 years!!)
The Holy Quran beautifully states,* “…and live with them in kindness…” Quran 4:19*
Where will the kindness towards the 1st wife be shown if the Husband marries a 2nd wife without the blessings of his 1st wife? Nothing will hurt the 1st wife more than her husband marrying again without her consent or blessing.
Human beings are imperfect so it is near impossible for a Husband to treat his wives fairly which is why the Holy Quran states that if a man cannot do justice then he should marry only one or what the right hand possesses.
Phophet Muhammad (may peace be upon him) was simply an exceptional Muslim, MashaAllah and He was able to treat his wives with justice, MashaAllah.
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