To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

[Iyla]

Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

@Sara_Abeeha

I EXTREMELY EXTREMELY disliked polygamy before my husband married another woman three years ago and I hated it like nothing else on the planet. I was in pain for the whole next year. Then I found a blog called Polygamy 411 which is run and frequented by women [Muslim women] living in polygamous marriages. We all help each other cope and have now accepted that this is Allah’s will for us, we are not to question what Allah has written for us in our fates.

I was initially going to divorce but the bloggers advised me, why would you let the other woman win by taking all yur husband? IMPROVE AND WORK ON YOUR OWN MARRIAGE. His marriage with the second wife is *his *business, not yours.

And make Allah your focus in your life, he should be your first love, not your husband. Once you live for Allah everything becomes easy on its own.

I recommend you all visit this great and helpful blog run by an American Muslim revert woman who went through a traumatic experience with polygamy [Its in the section of the blog called ‘‘My Story’’] and she has now after many years accepted it and now lives in peace.

wow - hats off to you. ma sha allah i’m glad you found a way to accept it even though it all sounds like it was forced upon you to accept it. may allah swt always keep you so happy.

while you were in pain for a year what was your husband’s reaction to your pain?

has your husband given you a separate home or do you all live together?

do you all go out together to a restaurant etc?