Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife
PCG has broken it down nicely IMHO.
Also; when it comes to ‘helping the needy’ I do have something to add. My Aunt who became a widow last April has 5 kids. Would you believe in a nation of so many helpful people none of these rich brothers have come forward to ‘help out’? No neither can I 
PW-assuming from your username you have a lot more experience of the whole two wifey set up…both my Great Grandmothers came from Pushton Tribes. Both were married outside of it as their Father didn’t want them in the same set up as he felt it was doing his family no good.
I will agree to disagree with you PW; peace.
It’s not just my Father I’ve seen take the biscuit out of this; my husbands cousins, people within my social circle and so on. I never said all men fail at it. I’m saying the majority will in this day and age. The demands of today are increasing. The culture in which more than one wife is the norm of course are to some degree exemption because they’ve never really had it any other way and I’m assuming may have adapted to the times although I am aware of a family from Peshawar where the husband is married twice; both women live in the same house and the first wife is constantly abusing the second wife but because it’s the norm for his family to have more than one wife and shes the Mother of his kids he’s accepting the behaviour.
Again I’m not saying Muslims should drop it; what I’m saying is not many brothers in the right mind who have no experience of this will walk into it. Why? My opinion is those who think will understand the demands on their time, wallet, emotions etc are so great with one family having another will thin it out and create if anything tension for him in the long run and potentially destroy his first happy home. It’s something that is optional in Islam; a lot of things are optional in Islam but no one wishes to pick those? How’s about living a simplistic lifestyle similar to ancestors and founders of Islam? No? Why not? You see I’m not saying it’s wrong to marry more than one wife; however if someone is willing to say ‘Islam allows it’ why would no one turn around and say ‘it also says a million other things care to look into them too?’.
I’ve yet to see a set up where EVERYONE including the kids who are being effected without a choice in the matter are happy.
It’s not just me either-my siblings (from my Fathers other marriage) never liked the set up either because it was a constant struggle for attention (or at least it was when we were that small; now it’s a case of none of us deal with him-he failed everyone).