To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

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Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

@Insaaniyat

Good post, but I don’t know why you mentioned this
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. It sounds behooda and unislamic, no offense.

On another note, when we talk about bad polygamous marriages that is within the confines of Islam because Islam forbids it if one is going to behave unfairly.

And does everything in Islam have to have reason? I mean if reason was the basis of our religious laws then why would we wipe our feet over and not under as logic dictates that we wipe under and not over but Allah tells us to do the opposite?

Coming to the Sunnah bit, polygamy is not encouraged in Islam. its optional. The Prophet was an exempt case since he was allowed to have more than four wives while all other Muslim men can not. So this rule does not apply to us. We must also remember that he married mostly widows/divorces. And another thing to remember is that despite living in a tribe/city where most men had numerous wives and monogamy was uncommon, he had only one wife-Our Mother Khadijah [RA]- for most of his marital life, who was nearly double his age and it was only after her death that he married other women, mostly on a humanitarian basis.

I was talking about what open minded countries think when it comes to girls and boys having multiple partners. It was not supposed to be Islamic. Our religion is not completely based on logic and reason but Allah himself has a sunnah way of doing things and a lot of things in our religion are logical from washing our hands before eating to waiting 40 days before having relations after birth of a child.

Most Muslim men have only one wife. It is also true that a lot who have more than one wife are not totally fair with them all. I agree this is bad. However A Muslim man is allowed to marry up to four wives for whatever reason. It is preferred that it be for a humanitarian reason but not required. If the man is trying his best to be fair and his 4 wives are Ok with it and so is Allah then who are we to judge is my point.