To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

[PashtunWarrior]

Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

@Princess1983

Erm I never said Islam forbids it. I also never questioned Islam or it’s teachings. Realistically though you can never ever match today’s man to those who practiced Islam when it first graced earth. Those men were aware of how important it was to obey the rules of having more than one spouse.

Clearly someone isn’t reading what I wrote. I’m a product of the whole ‘two wives set up’ and I’m stating what I have seen, felt and God forbid understand from living in the 21st Century. I can also tell you it’s easy for a man to say ‘I’ll keep both wives equally’ and after go back on their word and the KIDS LIKE ME in the situation wouldn’t even wee on their own fathers grave because why waste my wee on him?! Is that plain enough for you? Don’t lecture me on Heaven bro; parents also have responsibilities towards their children.

I also never said women should have more than one husband. I mean seriously one is bad enough for most women why torture them further.

Islam tells us many things-as does the Holy book. If you read my post you and understood what I was saying you would understand that it’s not as easy as people sometimes make out to have more than one SPOUSE and treat them Islamically. How’s about neighbours rights? Rights of orphans? The charity we should contribute on top of Zikaat if one can afford to do so? To take part in the whole multiple marriage situ but ignore the wider picture of what else Islam says is like pick and mix sweets; you leave out the ones you don’t like and go for the ones you do.

It was my opinion; based on actual things I’ve seen; not some random poster not actually aware of what the situation is in the majority of cases. There is a small minority who could work around the clock, ware themselves thin and treat two spouses the same but these brothers are usually the type that have one wife, children, work hard and after often found fundraising in their ‘spare time’ away from their daily duties.

I did read you post and I responded. I understand you wrote from you experience and that is fine. The issue is that you are over generalizing. You are assuming that most or every case will be like yours which is incorrect. There are cases in my family (uncle) where someone has two wives and they actually defend each other against some of my other relatives who are not happy about the two wife situation. My local imam has three wives and they are all happy. I also have a friend who has two wives and they hate each other. It just depends on the situation.

Indeed both men and women today are not like the ones closest to the prophet. We are not at that level. This does not mean that we should not practice or follow the way they did . This religion is until the last day. Allah knows everything from the time of the prophet to the last day. This religion will be the same until the last day. It can never be outdated.

I agree with you that we must fulfill all the responsibilities of being a Muslim, this includes those to our wife or wives. This does not mean that one cannot fulfill the responsibilities of having more than one wife although it does become harder. Most Muslim men who have multiple wives might not be the greatest of husbands but that does not mean that we don’t try to be.