To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

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Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

@Paheli00

Here’s another thought that comes to mind. How does a widow (or a divorcee) feel at the thought that a man married her b/c he thought she’s not capable of controlling herself and would commit sin? When a woman is single, widowed, or a divorcee…aren’t we women capable of controlling our desires while we search for a man who doesn’t already have a wife? My nana died when my mother was in 8th grade. My nani never re-married and died when she was in her 90’s. My best friend (who is a Pakistani btw) lost her dad to a heart attack when she was 11. Her mother chose not to re-marry and has managed to live life and raise 2 daughters for 20+ years. As far as I know…my nani and best friend’s mother didn’t go around the community committing “sin” to fulfil their needs.

All this talk of widows…what about women who are physically handicapped or have some form of deformity (either through birth or a medical condition)? Don’t these women have needs too? Yet when was the last time anyone here met a man who took on a woman (virgin or otherwise) as his 2nd wife who had some form of handicap?

yup, women are capable of controlling their desires, even men are capable of doing this. that is why Marriage is not kept as a Farz in Islam but as a Sunnah. if both men and women were not created with the CONTROL function, then i think GOD would have made marriage as farz or would have even put a penalty on those not marrying.