To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

[PashtunWarrior]

Re: To women who would want a divorce just because husband takes another wife

@psyah

If the country we live in does not allow multiple marriages and we try to create situations that compromise the legal status we enjoy then who are we really kidding? The country or ourselves? When a person gives a court divorce - is that not the same as a real divorce? And we must remember that marriage is a sacred act. Our status in a country is a promise - it is a contract we make with the country - it becomes Islamically binding on us to observe.

If a divorce is done in court or not it is Islamically effective - It is signed with his name - that does not change. A court demands all parties to be sincere. We should avoid dangerous grounds and be monogamous in countries that do not allow polygamy.

In the U.S. the family law is under the states. I live in a state where there is no law for fornication, adultery, cohabitation and does not recognize common law marriage. You can have as many partners as you want. In Islam the religious laws override everything from culture and costumes to laws of other nations. It is true that one must respect the laws of the nation they are in and if they cannot practice their religion they must leave. The ruling in my state is that as long as you have the religious marriage done properly it does not matter. The state simply does not care.