or it’s some sort of Bollywood/Hollywood invention or western brainwashing what sort of relationship are you expecting to have with your future husband or wife? More like a friendship? Or do you believe you can only truly love/care for someone you have a blood relationship with (ie mother, kids etc) and if so why?
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You do truly care/love for your blood relationships, i.e., your parents and your siblings. And I believe what really matters in a husband-wife relationship is that there should be respect and care, and it should be both-sided.
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I never understood this friendship like relationship with your spouse. 
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i think it does **EXIST**** but it's mostly the *EGO* of the person that get's in the way of *MOST *relationships. **
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@hareem01 ... LOL ... That's because "responsibilities" get in the way ...
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I know REAL LOVE does exist ... it is like a pool of water ... you need to jump in, but many sit by watching or merely dangle their feet in it.
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What psyah said.
Most people dont jump in because they are scared of hurt.
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It’s like friends with benefits. But it’s halal and hopefully forever.
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I didn't believe in love before I got married. Like I've said in another thread, watching people around me get into relationships and then saying "I love you" weeks after being together, just made me think "what idiots"; still does.
Even during my pre rukhsati post nikaah period, I knew I cared for my husband and that I came to love him in the sense that I would stand up for him no matter what and that if anything happened to him I'd be devastated. But it never felt like crazy love.
But after our rukhsati, and spending four months living with him, and now being away from him, I can say that yeah, love exists, he is my life. And most of the time that's scary; but it's also an amazing feeling, alhamdulillah.
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Sometimes I believe in it. Then sometimes I don't and I think it's better for a person to not get too attached. I know that I don't believe in the idea of perfect love...as human nature is not perfect.
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Real love does exist but its not what shown in Bollywood/Hollywood movie.
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It's like friends with benefits. But it's halal and hopefully forever.
But would that not mean there's no special bond when they're intimate or in bed together? it's kinda depressing (to me anyway) if a husband and wife relationship doesn't mean an extra level of closeness or feeling..
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a wife might not tell her husband ... "are you outta ur mind??" (out of respect)
but she might yell at her friend (even if hes her husband) ...
i guess there is a (thin) diff between real love and true love ... im my view true love does not exist, but real love may
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WTH with real and true love.
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true love would mean one and only forever and eternal etc. etc.
real love would be one or two at independent period in time (say you loved your first wife, she passed away you remarried and you loved your second wife just as) but genuine care/likness/commitment/love is there
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WTH with real and true love.
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But would that not mean there's no special bond when they're intimate or in bed together? it's kinda depressing (to me anyway) if a husband and wife relationship doesn't mean an extra level of closeness or feeling..
That would be pretty depressing. But what I was referring to was a great understanding between both partners that they can put their emotions aside (like friends) and just hear each other out (maybe while discussing past relationships, one spouse cheating, etc. ). I think that type of understanding only increases love.
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IMO the stuff that's shown in bollywood/hollywood movies isn't love, it's infatuation..