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^ I was Just pointing on the contrast. ;)
I do agree that ANY woman educated or not be given to use her mind to live her married life the way she likes. As long as she does not encroach upon or thrust her way of living on other people ways of living.
Desi or not desi, both men and women have certain roles to play in domestic living and while exceptions may be accepted, basic roles should not be argued.
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As wise man once siad:
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Marrying for sex is like buying a 747 to get free peanuts.*
Keep this in mind and you will never go astray.
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1) ** and i don't see ANYTHING WORTHWHILE (BESIDES CHILDREN) in marriage... Yes.....
OMG, I think they are the worst part!
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^ I was Just pointing on the contrast. ;)
I do agree that ANY woman educated or not be given to use her mind to live her married life the way she likes. As long as she does not encroach upon or thrust her way of living on other people ways of living.
Desi or not desi, both men and women have certain roles to play in domestic living and while exceptions may be accepted, basic roles should not be argued.
I think once women are married, they're a bit fearful of others imposing their ways upon them. Not the other way around.
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Awwie, thanks i hope so too 
but i think i have “other” issues which may not be that easy to tolerate :D.
I never said that. I am just saying when you show a perfect picture to someone where they wont have any adjustments to make, no rules/regulations to follow then suddenly when its time for them to do all that it becomes hard for them to digest. I never said the adjusments or rules to follow are wrong to ask for.
So when you have kids, you may want to throw them out too? or have a seperate house for them? what do u say :khums:.
I am a women also and i come across various women everyday and believe me MOST are conditioned to think bad of their inlaws even b4 they get married or even have an engagement. They will make comments like, “yar when i get married i wl make sure i get a seperate accomodation” or comments like that which clearly show such mindsets. And i dont know if we can put all the blame for this on the girls cuz the inlaws have been pretty unreasonable in earlier years so its hard to not judge them based on what we have been hearing all these years.
All i say is that the bride’s mom has the most vital role in this case to get rid of such thoughs from the girl’s mind. She should make sure her daughter goes into the new family with an open mind and not have fixed notions about her inlaws.
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FIRST OF ALL…THE QUESTION WAS ‘‘TO THE UNMARRIED MALES’’…AND THE OP and OTHER WOMEN CAN ASK FURTHER QUESTIONS ABOUT THE ANSWERS…
BUT WHY THERE ARE GIRLS IN THIS THREAD JUST COMMENTING OUT?? IF YOU HAVE A QUESTION DO ASK…WHY YOU SPOIL A THREAD??
no wonder every thread gets derailed like this and all threads end up looking like the same
There are things that can’t be compromised…and one of them is me staying with my parents…my response was about ‘staying’ and not throwing her out if there are disagreements…which is something common…
Well they are…nobody is stupid enough to base their opinion on few ‘e-personalities’…its just a supplementary source
why don’t you talk to your mother about marital problems, isn’t she the one who understands you the best?
and unbiased advice? seriously?
Actually i would disagree…majority do… (may be your company of women different..i don’t know)
and Majority of GS women are thinking that too (as it appears from their posts)
these two are contradicting …
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No, they’re not. They make perfect sense. You expect materialistic things from your spouse so unless you bring the same materialism to the table, dont complain. You as men demand just as much if not more than we do but complain that women are materialistic and demanding.
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A few people on this forum have the pre-set idea of how women are and that they have evil thoughts. I for one do not know any girl who went into marriage with such negative thoughts. My Dadi and Ammi mashAllah had a very loving relationship and so does everyone else I know Alhamdulilah. Except for one where the girls sil is pure evil and the whole community knows that but does that mean I think all in-laws are like that no. Marriage is about compromise and understanding each other.
Also, the negative impression some of you have of women is going to only cause you trouble when you will always think your wife is being clever are plotting against your parents. Everyone needs to go into a marriage with clean and clear mind.
AND for crying out loud people STOP generalizing. There are bad seeds everywhere be it men or women.
PS i just had to get this out of my system since I'm pretty annoyed with reading the same old from some particular people on here. I think it might be time for them to change their company.
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None of it really worries me at all.
I just want a partner who I really care about and who really cares about me. I believe if you love your partner and she loves you just as much and you both will do anything for each other..... everyone else shouldn't matter, I will also value whatever she values, and she should do the same. Any issues with family members, both of us should be able to discuss it among ourselves, and we should be able to resolve it.
And both of us should remember that no matter whatever happens, both of us have to be happy, and we will deal with any problem together.
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Interesting to see so many 'unmarried males' replying here!
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yeah… 
another thread bites the dust
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Not many unmarried males have much to say so we might as well have some fun!
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this saas/bahu and nund/jethaani fighting crap is the only reason I am marrying Amber Lamps. .............. well there are a few more reasons ............ but .......................
:/
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Why are you compelled to reply everytime even when none of it makes sense to you? If you can’t take a diff opinion or atleast respect it then learn to ignore it .
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umm where did I say it I don't understand something and it doesn't make sense to me. Also, what do you mean every time? Just like you I am also allowed to state my opinion and that's exactly what I did. There was nothing controversial about what I said. I still think people need to rethink this idea of women are evil and hate in-laws from the day they are born. That's only going to cause resentment. It's called giving benefit of doubt.
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I still think people need to rethink this idea of women are evil and hate in-laws from the day they are born. That's only going to cause resentment. It's called giving benefit of doubt.
I agree completely..Benefit of the doubt is always there to be given..
I hope you think similarly about both genders....
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ofcourse marriage is a partnership...compromise and understanding is needed from both sides
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umm where did I say it I don't understand something and it doesn't make sense to me. Also, what do you mean every time? Just like you I am also allowed to state my opinion and that's exactly what I did. There was nothing controversial about what I said. I still think people need to rethink this idea of women are evil and hate in-laws from the day they are born. That's only going to cause resentment. It's called giving benefit of doubt.
Ofcourse u are as much welcome to post yr views as anyone else. But you wrote how you were tired of reading same thing again n again and that is what i replied to. I don't think anyone said that women are evil or that they hate inlaws frm the day they are born. I personally blame them less but the society more bcuz even before they are married, they r so much into pressure that they think its better to live alone then to have anything to do with the inlaws cuz people scare them 2 much sayin all odds things abt the inlaws.
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Not many unmarried males have much to say so we might as well have some fun!
You won't let them talk even before they are married!!!
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Oh goodness, is there a padlock on your keyboard or something?