It really is sickening!! The poor girl is ostracized in some families if she has the audacity to want to take care of her parents! The girl has an obligation towards her parents too! Why do people think just because a girl is married, she has to serve her in-laws and totally get involved in their life and distance herself from her own family! Again, typical Hindu concept!! Such jahilana thinking!
And as Reha said, what might be perfectly acceptable to you might not be acceptable to the next person. In-laws who are constantly interfering and feel that they will ‘lose’ their son if he commits the sin of moving out think that they are doing absolutely nothing wrong. They are often in denial! They don’t realize how intrusive they are getting! It’s the guy’s responsibility to set it straight!
One of my friends is engaged and her mother in law is so intrusive! She is a Sikh girl so they don’t have any restriction of not hanging out before they are married . Her fiance works out of town so she hardly gets to see him. However whenever he is in town and they hang out, the mother in law comes along and sees absolutely nothing wrong with that!! She comes every single time! And if the two of them just go out for coffee, she calls every 10 minutes asking for grocery!! Sure, she isn’t slapping my friend left, right and center but she is definitely making her go through mental torture. When my friend mentioned to her fiance that his mother is being insecure, he replies back saying well that’s a normal reaction from any mother! $%$@!??? Seriously??? Even HE doesn’t think there is anything wrong with her behaviour then why on earth will the mother think otherwise???