Of course diwana! THat is not too much to ask at all…its the least that can be done. My point is simply that its wrong to expect so much out of someone who doesnt know how to be married yet, how to be a bahu yet, how to be a mother yet, how to be a good bhabi yet, how to be a good wife yet, etc. She is new to these roles and people around her should help her ease into her new life (because remember, its the girl that leaves her home, not the guy).
The OP seems to think girls who want to establish themselves separately do it because they have an agenda…maybe they do…a peaceful married life is on their agenda. Not to lay blame on inlaws but if two people dont get along…what is the solution? Putting them together or trying to help them establish a respectful distance? I say the latter because unless they are khoon ke rishtay, its hard to forgive.
Girl has the right to ask her husband for a home and also to be able to support her parents. She isnt doing anything wrong.