diwana
May 9, 2010, 12:46am
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ALL of my points are IF and ONLY IF inlaws are already being taken care of physically and/or financially by an elder sibling or another sibling.
AND one more thing. There ARE families that DO NOT have sons to take care of them. If a woman gets married, sees that her inlaws are provided for and dont direly need their other son, there is NOTHING wrong with her wanting to support her parents or be there for them ALONG WITH her HUSBAND.
By NO MEANS am I saying its okay for any woman to walk out on her inlaws when they are in need of help and support from their kids. She should be there for them because one day she will need the same from her son and/or daughter.
Lekin saying that she is not entitled to her own living arrangements, freedom, space or even to support her own parents is 100000000% wrong. If I get married and my husband okay’s it I will give all of my earnings to my parents…kaun rokega? They’re also OUR responsibility just like HIS parents are OUR resposibility.
WHY DO OUR PAKISTANI PEOPLE FORGET KE LARKI BHI KISI KI AULAD HOTI HAI? IT TAKES 9 MONTHS TO POP OUT A BABY BOY AND BABY GIRL. COLLEGE TUITION DOESNT CHANGE ACCORDING TO GENDER. I KNOW IT ISNT CHEAPER TO RAISE A GIRL. SO WHY DONT HER PARENTS COUNT ANYMORE AFTER SHE GETS MARRIED? LARKI PARAI HOGAYI HAI IS A HINDU CONCEPT AND WE NEED TO GET IT OUT OF SKULLS. LARKON KE MAAN BAAP DONT DESERVE ANYMORE THAN LARKI KE MAAN BAAP.
Dont make me ghussa
Too emotional Reha!
I agree with all your points in this post.
But What you wrote above that they are good only for free babysitting was not good. Also there is no need to shift love on to MIL only. Your post suggested it.
And I have mentioned that there should not be a reason force anyone to do anything unless his parents are in need.
There are bad in laws and there are bad real parents too.
