ok so we kinda decided im going to the uk for delivery , il go in nov, come back in march-ish…and i want to take my 7month old daughter whol be over a year old then with me…but my husband is saying i shudnt take her as il alreayd be 7 months preg, on a plane, how will i handle her and il be hving another baby soon so il need all my energy for that plus he said he cant live without her for that long…
neither can i. and i aruged the typcial im her mum point, he said well im her dad..
i complelty understand his feelings, but im HER MUMMMM i cant leave her alone, how can i win this arugment guys? i do feel for him, and grandparents, but i want her with me :
Your husband is making a ridiculous suggestion. You are the mom and no one can take care of her better than you. Plus you're the one who most likely is the primary caregiver. How can you possible leave a one year old in the hands of her dad and her grandparents. She will definitely feel withdrawal symptoms and be miserable without you. No one can take care of a child better than their mother.
There is no reason to leave her behind. Either take her with you or deliver in Pakistan. Also he will give all these ridiculous suggestion is you talk too much about how will you handle two kids and how will you travel alone with two kids. You need to ensure him that you can do it and stick to it.
If you were to leave her there who is going to take care of her since your mil and hubby both work during the day and sil is going to be married by that time? Who did your husband suggest will look after her?
Honestly I can't believe you guys are even considering such a silly idea.
Nadz whats in UK, why are you so desperate to put yourself, your husband and your young childern into this trouble just to have baby at some local hospital through NHS? Is it some kind of complex? Instead of wasting money on tickets, spend that money on private care in Pakistan and have your husband by your side to take of you and your little girl. Trust me the private care in Pakistan for baby delivery is 10xs better than your local NHS. Your family was there for you for the birth of your first child, now let your inlaws get the chance to experience the whole process. Let them take care of your and show some responsibility towards you and your children- their grand children.
Show some maturity of character and create some stability in life! You are almost a mother of two, quit creating unnecessary dilemmas.
PS: I'm very curious to know what your inlaws think about this potential decision of yours, because most normal inlaws would be greatly offended with your attitude and mentality, and rightly so.
I would say either don't go or if you really have to go then take your daughter with you because you will not be at ease leaving her behind. You are going to be constantly worried about her, which might take a toll on your health and on the baby.
Tell your husband you appreciate his concern, but you will be happier to take her with you.
Take your daughter with u. No one can take better care of her then u. When ur hubby is in office in the morning...Who will look after the baby? Even if there is some one else to look after, no one can take better care of her then you
Please take your daughter with you. You will be worried sick if you leave her behind and constantly thinking about her; if she is sleeping well, eating well, and if someone has passed her something sweet to enjoy! Do not leave her behind..it just breaks my heart to even think that.
Honestly I can't believe you guys are even considering such a silly idea.
Nadz whats in UK, why are you so desperate to put yourself, your husband and your young childern into this trouble just to have baby at some local hospital through NHS? Is it some kind of complex? Instead of wasting money on tickets, spend that money on private care in Pakistan and have your husband by your side to take of you and your little girl. Trust me the private care in Pakistan for baby delivery is 10xs better than your local NHS. Your family was there for you for the birth of your first child, now let your inlaws get the chance to experience the whole process. Let them take care of yourself and show some responsibility towards you and your children, their grand children.
Show some maturity of character and create some stability in life! You are almost a mother of two, quit creating unnecessary dilemmas.
PS: I'm very curious to know what your inlaws think about this potential decision of yours, because most normal inlaws would be greatly offended about your attitude and rightly so.
Why do you even have to go to the UK? is it for the citizenship?
lol, my baby can get citizenship through descent, its not that hard.
why are people forgetting where im from, im from the uk, and i made a plan before coming to pak that my kids would be born there, since i was born there, i want them to have my nationality, and oddly enough* wanT TO BE comfortble where i give birth* and im only comfrtble back home not here...and i think i have the right to feel this way seeing as im giving birth not him...
secondly, my husband looks after my 7month old alot, he puts her to slp, hes very very caring and not a typcial man.....so i think he feels it too, hes also saying im being ott, cos i shud be concentrating on my new child how will i look after both of them, he was with me last time and it was hard for me, but i told him first time round is always hard.....he also says when his sis gets married, the house will be empty, and his parents will be really lonely, and theyl want their granduaghter around..i found this reason annoying....so i should keep my lil girl here for 5 months just for their sake? im her mum.
anyway he said if u wana take her i cant stop u, but i know hel be sad about it. dunno how to let him feel that its the right thing to do to take her with me...
once the baby is born......u can tell your husband that you are not coming back...and he has to move to UK permanently........all your problems wil be solved...