To set the record straight: the wife must obey her husband

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Re: To set the record straight: the wife must obey her husband

@HotTea

obey every wish of the husband as per islamic rules. For example, the husband cannot order the wife to NOT pray since that would be againist the religion.

You are just trying the downplay the obviious “in-charge” piece for obvious reasons.

With power comes great responsibility. If YOU believe Allah swt gives you a certain amount of power, then you need to learn how to respect it so people respect you. You cant fight or change human nature…a woman might end up fearing you if you force yourself on her but she wont respect or love you. She wont care for you, she will simply do her job and punch out at the end of the day. The more you push people, the more they push you away. If thats the kind of life you want, go for it.

Most of us like to view marriage as a partnership where there is give and take from both sides. You want your wife to “obey” you…most women these days have enough free will where they can obey or disobey…you couldnt do anything about it. You could parade around with this Ayat on a poster board but where will that get you? Nowhere.

With power comes great responsibility. You want respect, you better give it.

@HotTea

You can whine all you want. I’m just putting the wife in her rightful place as per Islam. I have quoted from God (Allah).

The thing is, the wife can put you in your place as well. “Go get me a Louis Vuitton and we shall talk about obedience and until then I better not hear a peep out of you” or “make your own damn food until you learn how to address me with respect” or “hire me a maid and then we can discuss what I will do for you” or “I dont like the color of your mother’s outfit today…I want another house of my own NOW and until I get one dont touch me since you’re not fulfilling your Islamic duty towards me” or “oh you want obedience? hire a nanny because your kids are too bratty and I dont care if you cant afford one since its your Islamic duty” or “rob a bank if you have to but I think I want a salary now to take care of your brats because that is your Islamic duty and I can milk it since I just felt like it this morning”

Dont go there buddy…your place is to make sure there is enough for wifey to live in whatever way she wants. If you abuse Islam then be prepared to be abused as well. Marry an educated woman and she wont stand for any of this nonsense.

Then what will you do? How many times will you get married? How many women will you go through until you’re too old to be wanted by one?