Re: To set the record straight: the wife must obey her husband
The word “bima” is translated as “because” or “since” but it can also mean “with what”
The two places that we read in English as “obedience” are actually two different words in Arabic “Qanitat” and “Ata’nakum”
Qanitat - takes the meaning Obedient to the Will of God, it can mean to stand for a long time and honouring. When applied to humans it should take the recessive meaning since obedience is to Allah (SWT) and by honouring the husband Allah (SWT) is being obeyed.
In fact a better understanding can come from the reflex condition stated in the same ayat (it is often the way of the Qur’an to explain or contextualise itself often in the same or next ayat) - here we are asked “but if the women inspire fear of disloyalty and ill-conduct” - so we clear that the word for obedience must be to Allah (SWT) and it is meant as honouring to their men, for the ayat does not say that we fear disobedience in them, but fear the opposite of honour from them which is dishonour - i.e. ill-conduct and disloyalty.
The second time the word “obey” comes is as the term "Ata’nakum’ which means to concede admit fault and return to honouring you. This word is mistranslated in many mushafs … Check it yourself the root word is T’ 'A NA.
The essence of this ayat is that men are carers for their wives and in return for that care receive honour, for those men who fear that their wives are dishonouring them then they have to follow a set procedure to rectify that situation. It is obedience to Allah for a man to care for his wife with what is within his means and a wife should respect and honour him in that situation.
Fantastic Post, I’m quoting it just in case Hot Tea missed it. It really dangerous for you to just pick a translated snippet out of the quran (which is originally in arabic) and make some big claims, using it in order to struct like a rooster on the forums. Next time you dare to quote something out of the quran and use it for your own agenda at least be informed on the arabic.
You just made a fool out of yourself here. Hopefully this will be a lesson for you.