To say or not to say?

[safinaz]

Re: To say or not to say?

@redvelvet

Do you really think that people who don’t want you in their own home will treat you any better in a public place or in front of family friends? It would be more embarrassing actually. What goes around comes around…they have succeeded in degrading themselves in the eyes of the person that matters more to them than you…and that would be their son (your husband). He has lost some respect and trust in them.

Your husband knows about all their antics and he is aware of the sacrifices and efforts you have made for his family. The good thing is that he knows his family is in the wrong and he supports you…and you can use this to your advantage. From now onwards maybe your husband will be more careful…as in he may not push you to attend all his mother’s invitations or he may firmly decline some of them himself, or he may accompany you as much as he can. This limits the problem a bit. I think your in-laws lost out more. You see, you were humiliated by people who don’t like you…and whom you don’t have an attachment with. Your in-laws have stooped in the eyes of someone they love and who loves them. The latter is more hurtful. Think about what happened from this angle. It’s not something to derive pleasure from…it’s actually a pretty sad form of justice in a way.

I actually got sad reading this. The last thing I want is for my husband to lose respect for his family especially his parents. Sadly what you have said resonates greatly and is true. That’s why instead of having him confront his family, I wanted to ask here if I should deal with it myself. Thank you for always providing such sensible and logical approach to things.